Making love versus just sex

Back when I was young I looked for just sex. Now I would rather make love.

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Sex and making love are very different. But if you find a sex partner and tell them you want it to feel like love, is that good enough.

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I guess it depends on what you want. I just wanted to have sex when I was young. Now I would rather be in love with someone. I’m not much into sex other than pleasing my partner.

Well if we are making a distinction here then I’m a virgin. I’ve had intercourse but never with someone that I didn’t care deeply for. I don’t know if that’s a good thing or a bad thing but it’s true.

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So you want a to someone to love, a relationship
or can you find a friends with benefits situation where you care about eachother.

That’s a very good thing in my opinion. That’s exactly what I want, someone I care deeply for.

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I have never made love. Just had sex. Don’t really value it.

On the edge of being asexual, or maybe it’s just the rejection that hits hard

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I’m sorry you feel rejected, but you are young yet. Maybe someone will cross your path.

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I am not so sure, but we’ll see.

The fact is I have been badly treated in the past by other people, and have severe trust issues to overcome

Everyone who tries to get close I push away as a way to protect myself.

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Yes, I remember some of the things you said about your past and see why you don’t trust people. I just hope there’s nothing but good things in your life from now on.

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Thanks @ElGato . I am not sure how to make it happen, or if I’d even be able to appreciate it

Everything seems tainted

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Making love is only being charged $10.00 instead of $40.00.

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People have a policy of going to bed with someone early in the relationship. I now think it is much better to have Platonic dates with many people and going to bed only when you are very close.

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Wow @Here4You yea I agree.

I have a bad habit of having had sex way too early too many times

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In Greek language there are more expressions of love than just sex. I don’t know about other cultures.

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“making love” or “sex”.?

Frankly i would rather have a wank - that way i havent had to buy dinner and drinks.

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The distinction is arbitrary and a way of projecting our personal feelings about what sex should be about onto firmer concepts.

What you think sex should be is not what others think it should be. To me, “making love” is just having bad sex. Even with a partner.

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In some circles they say "the five finger discount":grin:

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Haha - Thats term in my neck of the woods means your stealing lol.

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Ah, I didn’t know, I thought wanking is kind of gratis.:grinning_face_with_smiling_eyes:

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