Casual versus non casual.
Casual is focused on just sex.
I can’t have sex unless I’ve known someone for a long time and am actually in love.
Sex just for purely pleasure with no connection feels terrible. To me.
On dating sites so many guys want casual but I can’t enjoy that.
I’ve basically only been casual and I don’t know if I would call most of them relationships. I’ve been getting bored of it though.
I don’t do casual. I mean I’m married, but when my husband and I were dating, we didn’t have sex until we were engaged. Neither of us wanted to do that unless we knew this was it for us. We also had tests done for sexually transmitted diseases first.
Sex for me is about sharing one’s soul and mind and body with another person so I don’t take it lightly. I have had casual sex before and didn’t enjoy it at all. It’s just not for me.
Sites lead to one night stands. Women have chosen this w me in the past so both genders do it.
But relating is very complicated what @LilyoftheValley did with her marriage is rare.
How old are you @Zoe ?
I am 34 years old. Time is slowly passing me by. 
And becoming more precious by the day.
Not always. But generally yes.
Some guys actually want commitment on them.
Ok you should find a good bar.
I’m a bit weird. I want a relationship one day but not too close. Idk if that combination is possible but will see.
Anyway lol. I’m just saying I don’t like one night stands. I know some women do but I just can’t see the fun in it.
I don’t seek out casual encounters, and I want a LTR eventually, but if I like the other person enough to be involved with them in the first place, then I also like them enough to be considerate of the type of relationship they want.
Im not saying one night stand im just saying free or quick sex. I dont really understand how you sleep w someone without relating to some extent.
It will have always happened.
Im sort of innocent i would just do what they wantrd and then either dump or get dumped for genuine reasons.
Ive never purposefully had sex while sober w someone without caring for them.
I can’t feel relaxed with someone if I’ve not known them for some time. And learnt to trust them and such. I’m quite a fragile lady lol. In that respect.
That’s what I mean. 
Yeah you cant just meet up and drop trow
That’s cool do your thing
Again i think its your age but im not much older than you. What does @Charles_Foster think about this shes been married for years.
Thanks @FreeLunch 
it’s hard for me. the girls that felt casual i never got very far with. i started out young in pretty long term relationships for the age i was. like two years a few times. casual doesn’t feel right to me. but then casual can have feelings there too in my opinion. doesn’t have to be just sex focused.
Yea true.
But I just can’t do it.
Feels super duper awkward.
But I respect that others can, nothing wrong with that
You just have to know what you want, some people know on the first date.
Again we should be talking about what @LilyoftheValley said which is that waiting to be intimate with someone can be sort of deep.
I knew I wanted my husband right away. But it was important to me to be in love and fully committed first. Sex isn’t just physical to me and it isn’t to my husband either. I don’t judge others who have casual sex, it’s just not for me.
This is sort of interesting @LilyoftheValley talks about it in terms of principles that she abides by that she and her husband abide by but I see it more as a question of proclivity.
What do ya mean? I don’t understand