Looks like I won't be moving out of my Fathers house any time soon

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My case worker stopped by my Fathers House and he brought his lap top with him.
He showed me an outline of goals that he set up for me to achieve.

Then out of the blue he flat out told me that the Charity that I am involved with does not have available Housing for me and then he said that it could take up to 3 years before a house or apartment becomes available.

He gave me a list of other Mental illness charities in the area that may have Housing available.
He said that I might be able to live in another Charities group Home but still use my Current Charities services.

This really does sound fishy, I bet that my twisted brother who sits on the board of my current charity had something to do with it.

He probably wants me to live at Home with my Father so I can help take care of him while he abuses me more.

I texted my brother to let him know what happened, but I bet that he already knows.

But on the other hand I do know that supportive housing for the mentally ill is very difficult to find.

So I really don’t know.

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Don’t give up. Check the other Charities to try and arrange some housing. Sounds like just a minor glitch for now, and you’ll be placed with a new outfit down the road. One where your brother isn’t involved.

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I’d look into the other charities. Don’t give up!

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No, my case manager said that I might be housed with another charity but I will still be a member of my current charity.

In other words I will only use another charity for housing only but the services will be provided by my brothers (current) charity

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its hard to live with bullies. not matter where I am i’m bullied iby either my brother or my father in law. i’m sorry keep us updated on how you are doing and if you have any luck with those charities.

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That’s terrible, @Wave. I’m so sorry. Everything seems to be harder than it should be, but not impossible. I hope you get housing soon whichever charity it’s from. Can you totally remove yourself from the charity your brother is involved in? Hoping for your safety and happiness. :heart:️

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I’m sorry to hear of your troubles

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You’ve been going through so much recently. It seems like life is hitting you one after another. Don’t lose hope my friend. Visualize what you want for the future and every time you feel down just see yourself in that future. We’re always here for you. :sunny:

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I’m sorry you got this news. I hope you find a charity with space soon.

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I patched things up with my brother.
He explained to me that the Charity I’m involved with is just trying to accommodate me and is giving me names of other Charity Housing probably on a temporary basis till Housing becomes available with the current Charity I belong to.

My brother told me that it should not take years before Housing becomes Available.
It might take up to a couple of Months or so.
I might be able to wait that long.
It might even be shorter.
I can only hope.

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Sorry to hear the news. Hopefully housing becomes available soon. Maybe in the meantime you could look up ways to deal with narcissists/bullys? My bf had a narcissistic boss. My bf learned by researching on the internet ways to cope with the boss until he found alternate work situation.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/fulfillment-any-age/201408/8-ways-handle-narcissist

http://liveboldandbloom.com/11/relationships/narcissistic-personality

http://www.professional-counselling.com/how-to-deal-with-a-narcissistic-partner.html

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Hi @Skims Yes ive been doing a lot of research on Narcissism.

Unfortunately my fathers favorite son, the Golden Child, my brother is a Narcissist also.

I am the Scapegoat, the black sheep of the family, the chosen child who is belittled and abused by the Narcissists.

The thing is I am now fully “Awaken” to my circumstances.

I now am aware of what I am dealing with and have power and insight into how Narcissists think and behave.

I am getting better at ignoring thief childish demands and I sometimes play a long with them and pretend to give them power.

Sometimes I become Narcisstic like myself.
Setting Boundaries with these very twisted souls and ignoring them as much as possible is really how you learn to survive with these deranged people.

Narcissists at their very core are insecure and hollow people.
They are void of all Empathy and get a rise at degrading and making others miserable.

I don’t let it bother me anymore, actually it’s making me stronger and even more empathetic towards others.

It’s kind of sad really, because many Narcissists like my brother was used and abused by my father also when he was younger.

My brother has no insight into this, he is basically so damaged that he is beyond repair.

I guess in a way I am the lucky one.
I at least am able to love and show empathy.

I know that deep down inside my brother in his own way does care about me.

He did visit me in the Psych Hospital many times and he did visit me in the ER when I was CAT Scanned that night.

He stayed with me in the ER for hours getting me food and water etc…

He stayed with me in the ER till 3am - He didn’t have to do this.

I think that my brother is conflicted, there is a dim part of him that is aware of the abuse that was inflicted upon us as children, but he is not equipped to deal with the pain.

I just cannot wait to move away from all this craziness.

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I don’t know where you live, but where I live we have assisted living centers for the mentally ill. You can stay as long or as short as you want to, provided you don’t do something too outlandish. You might check that option out.

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Yes @crimby i looked at this option earlier.
Unfortunately they don’t accept my insurance and it can be quite expensive.
Thanks for the suggestion

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If you could get on social security disability it would solve that problem.

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I have SSDI @crimby but the problem is that the Assisted Living centers around where I live do not accept Medicare, at least the ones I looked into

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They sure will in eastern Oklahoma. Maybe you should check around some more.

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Well because my brother is a board member and holds a big position at the Charity I belong to, it might be a good idea that I stay and see how it goes.

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I see. You’re probably right.

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how is your grief with losing your dog going? I am sad about that and I am sure you are too…I had to give a stray black cat to animal control last week and am quite bummed about it still…

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