I have to keep my illness a secret to others if I want to get involved in a Relationship or Employed … and that is lying …How can I have a GF if I cannot me upfront about my illness? Omit the truth? It’s still a shady lie
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Why can’t you tell them?
This is judgement call about when to disclose, just my opinion.
No need to tell someone we just met. Certainly we need to say something if any real romance or feelings developes.
I dont think i would tell anyone who … hmmm… hard to define. i see what saying and asking.
I will put it this way: If i known the person long enough to think there is strong possibility of a long term relationship, then i disclose.
However, if it is a situation such as a weekly 3rd or 4th date, no. Lots of people meet date a couple months, then drift off.
The person we are dating is a human being with their own set of issues. Most people do not disclose such personal information about mental or physical illnesses to others they spent so little time with.
If i had to pair up with a stranger for 2-3 months, for non-romance reasons such as reduced priced extended vacation trip, - I wouldnt tell that guy. So what is the big difference?
Maybe others see it differently.
I didn’t tell anyone I dated, with a few notable exceptions that blew up in my face.
Sure, they could all tell something was a bit off about me, but I wasn’t just about to disclose schizophrenia.
If someone can endure your weirdness without the label, they’ll do fine when you tell them,
Its a personal choice, man,
Totally up to you whether or not to tell them.
Regardless, you can date, just get out there.
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It’s not about what you HAVE to do, it’s about what you WANT to do. Relax and enjoy your time with your GF.
You should tell your prospective lovers about your illness because it could affect whether or not they want to have children with you. Sz/Sza are both hereditary illnesses.
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