Hello everyone i just thought i type this to get you all opinion on this particular subject, honesty i don’t think iv’e been having any true luck with relationships due to me disclosing my illness (paranoid schizophrenia) with them before we get to know each other, besides i think that is much better to disclose it right away so you won’t get further into a relationship hiding your illness,so to get to the point what are you guys and girls opinion on this whole subject do you think that its the right thing to do to tell them you have a illness right away or to wait until you get further into a relationship so they can probably have better acceptance, anyways seriously guys and girls what do you think?
(am looking for good friends (all), and as for relationship am looking for a nice gf) < I just wanted to disclose that with you all
I don’t think it’s a good idea to tell people straight away that you have schizophrenia. Let them get to know you first. But if you’re dating someone then let them know early on.
Dont wait too long to tell. Be upfront. That’s just my opinion from the past. I was in a 15 year marriage. It was extremely difficult. It fell apart as a result of my illness. Then I had many short relationships. Mostly I ended them while in a manic state. Then I was in a 4 year relationship that ended because he was an ■■■■■■■ user. He still can’t get over it. My illness played a part in all my relationships. I’m done with them forever. Anyway I paint a bleak picture but some people have great partners.
Yeah i agree, and that’s been one of my main things to get out the way is to tell them upfront but the only problem with that is, what if that turns them off and prevent any further conversation with that person due to the person judging the book by its cover… I know i haven’t had too much luck with telling the person right away…
I haven’t necessarily told them what my mental illness is. Just told them about some of the symptoms. I’m pretty quickly open about the bipolar part as thats pretty accepted in society. Otherwise I just keep it to symptoms without a name. They seemed much more open to that. Being upfront but not fully disclosing
Yeah its crazy how society looks at mental illness and judges us without getting to know each of us who suffers from such mental illness. I come to notice that most people who suffers from mental illness and take their medications are actually the most kindness and good people in society.
But when you’re young, people just don’t have enough experience with that and are generally less accepting.
They get scared, do some quick googling and drop you like a brick.
When you’re a little older, things change.
I mean, some people will always be idiots, but a lots of them take a “nobody’s perfect, at least you don’t have herpes” stance as they advance in years.
Lol!, yeah i guess you are right, but I myself and i know i am a wise thinker for a person like me to have schizophrenia for so long and i have my illness well under control thanks to god working through so many good medications in this world to get your brain back into reality, I think i am a unique 18 year old who wants something positive and great in life and am not letting this schizophrenia stop me from doing just that. haha, that’s just how most people are google your illness like crazy and freak out and starts ignoring the person who suffers from the mental illness.
Yea @Gina2, that’s what i read is it’s more common for sz women than men to have partners. It seems it is true even on this site. I dont know if its the violence thing. I suspect it might be cuz women want a strong independent man who can support them, and sz is crippling to that. Also women’s sz tends to be less severe than men from what i read.
Don’t worry you’ll find the right one and get into a great relationship, its normal to be kinda scared at first because that’s how i am but am striving towards braveness everyday, i think i am much less shy than i was when i was first diagnosed at the age of 13 .
Definitely not something I would mention until things started getting serious. It’s a big red flag to those that don’t Know anyone with sz that is doing well.
For me I don’t think it would be something I would disclose unless I intended to have a serious relationship with that individual. “I have several comorbid mental illnesses” is not exactly the best opening line on a date
I want a person to get to know ME before they get to know my illness.
