As I’ve grown, I’ve had questions and I sort of understand the whim… the feeling like it’s up in the air. It would be nice to have at least one definitive answer for myself.
I’m with a girl now, and guess I would consider myself straight… but not narrow. If the perfect person happened to be a man, then they happen to be a man. But right now, the person who understands me and makes me happy happens to be a woman.
I know, the doc’s don’t always help. If you get a fundamentalist type doc, they could say that sexual identity could be down to mental illness and homosexuality is a sign of M.I.
If you get a more liberal doc, they could say it’s just the way you are, embrace it.
I sort of had to let go of external definition and just let it be.
My parents are both teachers and they see all sorts of kids in their class. So in my life, they have always said that if I end up bi or gay, they will still love me. They have been very supportive of two of my cousins who have come out and they are very supportive of LGBT rights. So I finally learned not to stress it.
If I end up with a man, my family will still love me. If I end up with a woman, my family will still love me.
I know not everyone is in that boat. But I guess you just have to trust yourself. If you find a soul who loves you and makes you happy, does it matter if they are female or male? Kindness and patience and happiness are rare gifts, I’m not going to turn someone away due to gender.