I don’t understand?
Did he cheat on you @Teaclipse?
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@Teaclipse You deserve a supportive partner who accepts you as you are.
You are an intelligent and attractive woman and should be proud of yourself and your accomplishments in life.
When someone else spends more time trying to break you down instead of building you up, it seems to me that this person is best removed from your life.
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Yes, I stand with @Wave on this…
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He was with a working girl… And he said terrible things to me after being with her. I don’t know what else to say @Wave
It was while he was on trip with his friends.
Few days in Germany and…
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Big thanks to all support.
I am doing not very well today… But I will reply to you all later.
It happened almost two years ago.
I forget but never forgave.
I would never do to him what he did to me.
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Yes, completely understandable
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Today I’ve been thinking a lot… I know that I myself made many mistakes, that I overanalyzed things and hurt him a lot. But… deep down I think that it just didn’t work out for us. I felt very unattractive, somehow… not good enough next to him. I believe that with time, when I look back on the good moments, I won’t feel as sad as I do now, and the bad ones will remain as lessons.
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All of your words mean a lot to me… it’s very touching and comforting to read them.
Sadly, when I was with him, I didn’t feel like a normal person or beautiful as a woman… he would even joke that I wasn’t young anymore, even though he is seven and a half years older than me.
It will take a lot of time to sort everything out in my mind.
@Moonbeam
@saynow
@SkinnyMe
@LilyoftheValley
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He… he never really found himself in life. He once said he would like a young girl, that he enjoyed gambling, and before me, he drank a lot of alcohol. Something definitely changed when we were together, but his needs stayed the same. I know he’s extremely obedient to his family, and his parents really want grandchildren, so MAYBE that’s why I was welcomed there so warmly, and why he would always get angry when I went back to my parents.
Honestly, I’m boiling inside. Because of him, I felt completely worthless as a person, as a woman, even felt too old already. A lot has happened, and I’ll just say it straight: it would be better if he lived however he wants and didn’t continue being such a negative person… even if his passion is gambling. Let it be.
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I don’t know… I have a feeling I’ll be writing about him these coming weeks because something is stirring inside me. I regret these past six months of being in contact again after we got back together post-breakup… he wasn’t worth as much as I gave. I’m sorry if it gets annoying.
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We often feel like we are not enough. There will always be people for whom, for one reason or another, we will never be “enough.” But that is not a reason to stop loving ourselves, to stop accepting ourselves, or to stop forgiving ourselves.
The warmest, kindest people often face rejection and a lack of love, until one day they reach a moment in life when they meet the right people and realize that everything they went through was not in vain. Even the smallest drop of love is worth more than a mountain of hatred.
Love heals.
Goodnight. 
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Thanks for this coffee..i needed to hear that at this exact moment. I have alot of negative hatful feelings that come up because of feeling abused. I was just about to choose anger/hate but your post calmed it down lol
I am enough even if others are more !
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You are enough and you are worthy of the best things in life. @signless
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I’m sorry you’re feeling sad. It takes a lot of time to heal a broken heart. It sounds you and your partner were both looking for different things in a partner.
Be well friend.
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I like this thread. Every time I read this thread I feel better. I have read this thread like 3 or 4 times.
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It’s amazing. @Jake
Glad to read that.
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Take back the power in your life. His opinions don’t actually matter at all in regards to your beauty or worth. Let him go, reclaim yourself, and move forward.
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Many people in the forum said that I’m beautiful and smart. I’m smiling as I write this! Theoretically, I really am smart; even my doctor agreed… “Bright-minded, but raised in chaos.”
I’m not asking anyone to deny or comfort me. Honestly, I just want to get this out. My boyfriend—well, ex-boyfriend—hurt me about every possible part of my body. About how athletic I am. About how feminine I am. I feel like such a complete loser that I’m planning not to even think about men for a very long time, let alone about… anything in bed with them.
Once, my stepfather, drunk and without explaining what he meant, said, “So why are you like this?” with a look of total disgust… I keep wondering, maybe he meant my mental issues.
To end, I want to ask everyone to think about what they say to their partners and how they say it. I never wanted to tell anyone how many times my boyfriend insulted me, and even he would try to “help fix it” by saying sorry or claiming he didn’t remember saying those things. And then adding, “You’re normal, after all.”
Don’t insult people over things they can’t change.
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This is something people do when they are insecure and worry that others are thinking the same thing about themselves. They accuse someone else of having the flaws they fear/hate in themselves, to proactively stop that person from saying it to them first.
What I mean is that your boyfriend was probably insecure about his own body and masculinity, and was worried you would think he wasn’t good enough because of that, so he insulted you to make you feel bad so you would feel the same as him. It is the wrong way to treat people.
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