Stupid stressors in my life. Sometimes I wish I lived on a desert island.
whatâs wrong @Jimbob
1 Like
There, there. Take a deep breath, reassess your situation. Itâs probably not that bad. If by some weird twist of fate, something horrible just happened to you, share it with us and weâll try to give advice.
1 Like
Whatâs stressing you out?? Make a list and we can go through ways to possibly help them! 
1 Like
Thanks for the speedy replies folks. Means a lot.
I think my main problem is I am isolating myself again. Havenât really left the flat in a couple of weeks. My parents invited me over to the pub last night. Was there for about 30 seconds but it was too much and I left.
A guy I know has been texting me but I havenât replied. I donât know why. He got worried and spoke to my folks asking if I was alright. Have no idea why I do this self imposed exile - it really is very bad for me.
And this amount of time I spend on my own leads to self critical introspection. Kinda hate myself right now.
J
What happened at the pub? Why did you leave so soon?
1 Like
Last Christmas I was in a local bar celebrating with this couple I know. They are 20 years older than me but we get on. Anyway they insisted on buying all my drinks cos I am on welfare. Anyway this cretin who lives in the village turned round to one of his pals and said " heâs got enough â â â â â â â money. It takes the piss these benefits" or something along these lines.
I hated him for that.
Anyway when I went in the pub he was there and it upset me so I left.
@Jimbob I can see why that upset you. I probably wouldâve left too.
2 Likes
Can you stay away from pubs and bars?
Iâve heard a lot of bad stories from you regarding them.
Maybe theyâre not helpful to your recovery.
3 Likes
Hi @Jimbob. I can see why you wouldnât want to stay at the pub with that guy there.
I hope you start to feel better soon. Sometimes too much introspection is dangerous.
1 Like
Graded reintroduction?
Maybe you could build up going out, start by sitting on your front step with a cup of tea if you have one and build from that.
I do occasionally cry, or water comes to my eyes. Through usually one eye at a time (my special skills)!
2 Likes
Problem is my village has no community centre. It doesnât even have a shop. The buses donât run anymore so it is either an hours walk to the nearest town or an expensive taxi ride. All there is is a pub.
But you are right - it doesnât help me. But now I am realising isolation doesnât help either. Donât know what to do.
1 Like
Yea that happens in my country too, especially in rural areas (villages etc) people gossip about each other; they donât know what privacy means. Donât let it get to you, f*** that moron,
(or even better if you want to try your hand at some schizophrenia evangelism, just buy him a drink and tell him your story, heâll probably melt and realize money donât buy you happiness, but friendship and good manners goes a long wayâŚ)
Dunno what else to say, but itâs definitely not something to cry over. I also used to seclude myself before the illness, but I would still text back if people were looking for me. Introspection is a double-edged sword, you should ask other people what opinion they have about you and always confront what they say with your inner beliefs. Youâll see that in time, youâll start to feel better about yourself, no matter how f*****d up you think you are right now. Trust me, you arenât. And there are people out there who are having it much rougher than you, who would love to cry but canât find the tears.
And last but not least, if you really feel the need to cry, watch a soap opera or the movie âHachikoâ and cry your heart out! Youâll definitely feel better afterwards.
Just my two cents, must be taken with a pinch of saltâŚ
1 Like
You cannot feel guilty about isolating yourself from people, youâre ill, you get a pass on that. Anyone who is a semi nice person would understand why you may be acting distant and wouldnât mind. Iâm going through a similar situation right now, Iâve started dating this guy but now Iâm acting super distant but I explained to him why and that I needed a break to sort some things out and he totally understood and has been very supportive! Sometimes itâs difficult to tell which way to go will help you - having a break from everything or pushing yourself to be social a lot. Is there any safe places for you like a certain restaurant or cafe? Somewhere quiet you can go to with people you trust for a while till you can feel better about going out to other places. Or when youâre at home invite family or friends over so youâre not on your own so much and wonât overthink things and have the time to think badly of yourself.
1 Like
Sorry off subjectâŚyou can cry one eye at a time? HowâŚdid you even figure that outâŚ
On subjectâŚexile is badâŚyou did nothing wrong dont guilt yourselfâŚ
2 Likes
Your posts always make me feel like weâre spiritual twins 
Isolation is no good, but neither is opening yourself up to ignorance and hostility. I understand why you left. Chances are, I would have done the same. Some days, we have thicker skin and can blow people like that off. Some days, itâs not as easy.
You should respond to the guy texting you. Youâre building it up in your head, making it harder every day to do a relatively simple thing, making it seem like some huge failure on your part when itâs just a couple of words. I know, because I do the same thing.
It sounds like heâs concerned and sympathetic, so Iâd just say something like, âsorry, been a bit off lately,â and then just answer whatever he asked. Youâll feel 1000% better if you do.
3 Likes
Thanks rhuuuubs. You are the best. 
2 Likes
Last time I was at the opticians I was asked if there had been any physical trauma to them. As Iâm not far off being partially sighted apparently!
1 Like
What about a bike ride @jimbob ?
Sometimes a little isolation does good but I guess we all know when it doesnât serve any purpose but to push us more into despair and self pity.
Sometimes a lot of isolation makes me feel totally disconnected⌠And when I speak to people, just a small talk can make you feel like a human.
1 Like
I have no issues with going out here in this new city, but I did for a week when I switched meds. It was hell. I understand not being able to leave, I locked myself up until I was well. I also did that when I was having insomnia.
It can and probably will be temporary- but seeking treatment is faster than treatment seeking you when you want to get better.
1 Like