Hi there, I was wondering is it the disease that I can’t feel love for anyone especially for my love one’s. I can’t feel it no matter how I think of it. To be honest I can’t feel the love for my own kids! Does anyone feel that way? Without the love feeling it’s harder for me to find words and or the thought of how to take care of my own family. I just know that they are my family that’s all!
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I have the same problem. I can’t feel love, even for my child. It makers me really sad. In my case it is because of the meds. When i stop meds i get really happy and loving again - and then collapse back into psychosis. So quitting is no option, but living without love is difficult as well. It can be the illness, it can be the meds.
I’ve seen people on here say that their medication makes it difficult to feel any emotion, so maybe it’s the meds? I am not medicated and I feel intense love that I experience as painful much of the time regardless of the circumstances. I love my husband but I don’t believe he loves me. I feel bad about that because I think he does but he can’t convince me, and a lot of the time I believe he’s cheating (he’s not). I love my son close to worship. If anything happens to him (God forbid) I know I would die. So, I don’t really have an answer for you but think your post is interesting. I posted recently that I don’t believe anyone loves me or cares. That’s a core belief of mine. But I didn’t talk about the other side. I can feel love but I’m not sure how healthy it is. Also, when someone isn’t with me, reinforcing a bond I suppose, I don’t think about them often and don’t have feelings towards them…
I think schizophrenia, or the medicine, makes it harder to feel emotions.
I think if you care enough that you don’t love them, it shows that you do probably love them, you’re just feeling it differently.
If you are taking medication to stop a relapse, then you love them enough to prevent yourself from becoming ill.
Maybe also, please someone correct me if I am wrong, flat affect of schizophrenia makes it difficult to conceive what you are feeling is love because you aren’t openly demonstrative of your love.
It is there it is just really hard to access.
I am sorry you are feeling this way.
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for me I want to feel the love so I can pay more attentions to them and help out as much as I can but I never feel that anymore so I only think of them when they really ask me to…
it’s alright I guess just I know my kids need me at time but i’m not all there for them all the time.
Have you talked with your doctor and/or therapist about this? I’m sorry for your situation. I hope you find a way to work through it and feel love again. Atleast you care and have concern. 
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but you are right I can’t feel emotions anymore so it’s hard to except if you are doing the right thing for them if the need it. I just know that if I wasn’t like this I would be thinking of them more.
for me it’s the other way around I can’t feel emotions but I know my people cares for me a lot that they let me do what I want and never say that i’m wrong.
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That’s wonderful that you have a loving and supportive family! How long have you not been able to feel love?
for as long as I can remember about this disease.
Yes, I identify.
I have a wife who is wonderful to me, but day to day I have no feelings for her.
Jayster
it’s hard to talk to my wife sometimes cuz I feel no emotions everything I say is the same everytime I ask how’s she doing.
Are you on medication? There must be an answer for you. I wish I had one. I’m sorry you’re dealing with that. I think maybe even a therapist could help you find those feelings again. I wish you well ️
thanks! I hope everything is good for you to
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I was broken up with yesterday and im certainly very sad
sorry if I don’t get this right but with what?
I feel too much. I can remember times of my life when I was young when I felt numb and withdrawn and now I’m wondering whther this wasn’t better. I was pulled out of that anwyay.
My emotions are a little odd, but I still have them. It’s like everything has a delayed reaction and I can’t live in the moment.
It’s like I have to think about emotions for a while and then I have them, sometimes intensely.
They call it a disorder of thought and emotion, but people always seem to focus on the thought part because it’s usually more bizarre. But I’m supposed to be SZA so my mileage must vary.
not really… though meds might reduce the physical infatuation you feel for someone which can often be confused with love…
find the people who bring you comfort and let you be yourself… if you are looking for sex then make sure they have that interest in mind as well…
you might truly feel love and loved whether it manifests as a friendship or a relationship or whatever you might be able to cook up between the two.
There are so many mentally ill folk out there… it kind of takes being open about it. The coming out thing… not being proud your mentally ill but almost being assertive in making people who rather disregard the presence of mental illness acknowledge it is a real impact on people’s lives and it doesn’t mean ■■■■ about the value of the person who has it. You have to be willing to do that because it’s a byproduct of letting people know so those short little chances where you are in the presence of someone who is mentally ill and you wouldn’t otherwise know… you still are able to mention it and form that bond that makes a connection with someone who might actually get you.
Mentally ill folk who have become very good friends this year: 3
Friends who have non-typical experiences either ongoing on in the past that have opened up: 2
Internet friends from SZ.com: The countless coalition
Hah… normie folk with anxiety issues: (fuck-tons)
Times fallen in love since diagnosed with SZ/psychotic break: 2 or maybe 3… only one was certified bonafied totally want to marry this chick and make children then she’ll divorce me and leave me with a wake of self-disappointment in my capacity to fulfill her and then secondarily raise children… and not even care (I most certainly would try my best.)… that kind of feeling… only once. It’s just a feeling though… that girl don’t want nunna dat.
It’s still possible… it’s just that we are highly ■■■■■■■ complicated because our experiences fall far outside of being easily communicated and we are more prone to be unstable… so for us to develop trust, appreciation, respect mutually with someone else is just more difficult…
Patience, Stability, Comfort, Understanding… in friends and lovers… the world should be more geared to encourage this…