Will I be able to love again with this illness? I’m seeing someone I like but sometimes I doubt whether I can love them completely. I wonder if my brain cannot handle it?
I wonder this too,
And I’m married.
This illness takes up so much of my mind,
Sometimes its difficult to be human and have a loving, normalish relationship.
Difficult, not impossible.
Keep working at it.
Relationships with schizophrenia take so much more effort,
But it is doable.
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Thank you for the reassurance. I really like her.
You’ll be fine, homie,
Just remember its not easy,
Love is active and takes work.
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If you want a strong relationship , love is something you do. Not always something you feel. So yes you can do it. Just not as exciting as it was when we were norms just don’t feel as strongly on meds.
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I dont think its something u do. Love makes u do. I am the curioso about whether i can love myself, i know i can be tingled by a nice girl, but i’m not sure if i could feel love like i used to cuz my emotions flatlined with sz.
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Never could have loved before the medication.
Before it was all fanstasy and paranoia…a horrible combination. I could never get close to a person…I’d always stuff it up and always blamed something else.
Got married after medication. Did some seriously cool things and that was great. I still love but not with that obsessive level I used too.
Yes. It’s better for me with medication although I’m divorced now but that was some poor decisions from the mrs way back when!
yes, release your resistance to loving.
In a long term relationship there are going to be times when you don’t feel love for your spouse. Could be just moments but That’s when you love them despite how you feel. I’ve had a happy marriage for 17 years and it’s not all like it starts out with butterflies in the stomach. If you don’t decide to love this person you have feelings for all the time, no matter what you will have a sad marriage. If it even lasts.
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I am married. But things are not the same anymore. Not with anhedonia. I don’t feel anything.
But I have also experienced some passion. But that makes my dopamine go crazy and I go psychotic. Maybe anhedonia is there to protect me…
Anyone with a mental illness can recovery and fall in love. I don’t see why not. It takes time to find your feet again and let go of your hang ups about whether you deserve to love knowing you have an MI, but it is possible. Love finds a way to heal us.
Im married and I love my husband, but I don’t feel passion since I began again on my meds (which was a few months after my wedding five years ago). There is little ‘fireworks’ but I have learned true love is not necessarily what you feel but the commitment to love. Being there for the other person. Theres not much romance in my life but Im content with it.
When I first got sz I had a boyfriend for a year off and on. It was hard to feel passion there either. But he was a good guy and I still think fondly of him. When I found out recently he passed away in 2010 I was really sad.
I would say sz affects the emotions but it doesnt affect the commitment to love. Or maybe it does but not as much. Its still possible to love even with sz.
I ended up telling her yesterday I wasn’t ready for a serious relationship. I hope I am still capable of loving someone in the future 
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yeah maybe you don’t love her? does not mean you are not capable of loving someone…
these stuff should be effortless… love, relationships, happiness… things just work out 
be happy
I think it’s more that i feel Ill.
Sorry didn’t mean to like your despair.
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