Is casual sex fun?

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Nevermind 15charcters

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Catching an STD might be a bigger source of irritation.

Having casual unprotected sex is pretty irresponsible.

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This is something I’m worried about. I will try to be extra careful and also be clear to explain that.

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I never got to have casual sex. I lost my v to a long time boyfriend. And have only ever had sex with my current partner since then.

I guess you could consider my first few times with my current partner as casual because we weren’t together officially. But we soon became a couple after that soooo not really.

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But if you are both using each other sexually and that is communicated. It could be okay. Fair consensus.

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But what if it is a regular person who you get to know first for trust about STDs. It could work. Idk…

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I had alot of casual sex in my 20s…never used a condom but once. I am lucky I didn’t get anything :disappointed:

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That sounds really beautiful

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As said…to each their own.

But I neither want to use or be used. Now I reconnected to my feelings. I want a real connection. It hurts me on a deeper level to have a using kind of relationship.

It’s really up to you though.

Also…unsafe sex causes stds and babies both. I’d never risk that. Use condoms.

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Thanks. I do regret not having a hoe phase though. But not very much. I’d take my current partner over a hoe phase at any time.

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@Zoe Didnt you just recently post you were back together with your boyfriend? The frequent back and forth in your threads on relationships makes it difficult to keep track.

Maybe consider just taking some time off from relationships, both serious and casual, and focus on yourself for a while.

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I second @Moonbeams thinking.

I only started healing when I took a radical break from relationships. And focused on my own life.

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What does a hoe phase mean

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I’m gonna take a break for a while.

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It just means a time in your life where you have lots of casual sex. It’s not meant to be derogatory. Just fun.

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Nothing wrong with enjoying casual sex or lots of sex.

Gay men have it easy as they both have high sex drives and don’t have stigma amongst themselves.

But some do have sex for the wrong reasons like for self esteem reasons which is harmful mentally.

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Casual sex was never for me. I would get attached, and that’s complicated. I understand what you mean about reactions to condoms, though. I get severe reactions from certain skin products like body wash or lubricants. Worse, I may be good using something for a few weeks or months, but all of a sudden- reaction. Having said that, there are a lot of different condom types, and you could try to find something that works for you so that STIs aren’t such a big concern. Ultimately, it’s your body and your decision; we can’t decide that for you.

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Casual sex isn’t my thing. And certainly not without a condom

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I was hypersexual on Abilify and I regret it. I feel like it gave me trauma memories. Never again. Never had unprotected sex or STDs luckily, got tested twice after quitting sex years ago. Even the gf i had i was delusional erotomania and hypersexual, it wasn’t healthy, i didnt feel good back then, now i feel much better and sane

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I don’t think you should be having sex with anyone.

You seem to have zero understanding of yourself, your sexuality or others.

You have about 5000 threads here about insecurities surrounding sex/romance.

I’ve heard you say just about every feeling one can have about sex.

And you’ve felt passionately about each one.

I don’t think you get it.

Despite your age, I think you have some maturing to do.

I also think you should start a mega thread for your sexual frustrations.

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