That is classified as “survival sex” and has no bearing on someone’s sexuality.
In addition
I am an honest person so the woman would know how I feel about dating men. Etc etc
Sigh
I hate having to defend myself on here…
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I’m not offended because you used the word gay to describe the attraction you have felt towards women. You can define that however you like. The “bit offensive” part was that you said you had considered being gay, as if being gay is like a fancy hat people can choose to wear or not.
I’m not attacking you, I’m just informing you that talking about it like that is offensive to me. It’s not easy to have to live with people judging you for your sexuality, and talking about that sexuality as some something you can just try out for a while trivializes the struggle and the identity that that struggle creates.
If you can’t see why this is hurtful then that’s fine. No one can avoid being offensive sometimes. But now you know that it is hurtful (for a lot of people) and can describe it differently.
Considered being gay.
How does saying that trivialise the struggle and identity? I honestly don’t know.
Just some background on that, for a few years now I’ve felt like I’m suppressing gay feelings so when I say considered being gay I meant to explore allowing me to express those gay feelings. To see if I’m truly gay. But it turned out as I allowed it to become more of a reality, it started to feel weird.
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I know what you meant. I’m just saying your words were offensive. Because if I could choose to have everyone see me as straight and just get on with my life, without hate and judgment and rejection, I would choose that in a second. I can’t choose that. I wish I could. Being gay is being different and being hated and judged through no choice of your own. It’s unfair. And that identity is not something that you just decide to wear for some short while until you figure things out.
It’s fine if you’re gay, and I know you didn’t mean to offend. But it is hurtful when people describe that part of me like something you can choose.
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Sorry Treebeard that I offended you.
I’ll try my best to remember not to use that wording again. Clearly I’m a bit unaware of how it feels to be truly gay. But thanks for educating me.
I hope we’re OK,
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We’re OK. I’m just extra sensitive about these things now because my boyfriends’ homophobic family recently disowned him for being with me, have been trying to force and manipulate him to become straight, and have been coming to our home to harass me.
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I hope things resolve somehow @anon9798425.
In terms of their attitude towards you guys.
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Thanks. We’ve been hoping that for a long time but I don’t think they’ll change.
I used to reason that Latuda made me straight since I acted out more that way when I took it but I know now that I’ve otherwise just been covertly straight on Invega and Risperdal but felt less like a man due to the side effects.
No, it’s called ‘situational homosexuality’, take it up with my psych professor
I think Abilify has a very powerful influence on the sexual aspect of a human. I was on it just for one day and I started visualising sexual images that I have never done before. It scared me a little, because I know I’m not like that. So who knows, maybe it at it’s utmost consequence can alter someones sexual orientation.
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How long ago did you learn that though?
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Psychiatry doesn’t have a good history when it comes to talking about and understanding homosexuality. This sounds like an artifact from when they treated it like a disease. The otherwise straight men who enjoy relations with other men in prison are probably either bisexual or just like abusing others.
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Survival sex is sex to achieve a means. For example, straight people can do sex work for clients of the same gender, someone might have sex with an old, rich person they’re not attracted to in order to get bills paid, and in prisons inmates might forge sexual bonds with each other to achieve protection or a rise in status. None of these things determine a person’s sexuality, because they are not done with sexual attraction as the motivator.
And yes, it is very possible that some of those men might be bisexual and just prefer women enough that they don’t consider themselves to be anything other than straight, but they might actually enjoy being with a man.
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FFS, nobody has a right not to be offended. You’re offended? So what. Resolve your differences, but don’t complain about being offended as if it gives you some right.
I’m asking for abilify to bring back my sex drive, next time i see pdoc
Abilify changed my personality for the worse while I was on it. Thankfully I got my better and original personality back after 2 weeks of stopping Abilify.
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What are you even going on about? If someone is offended they should just shut up?
It looks like everyone were having civil discussions here until you showed up, swearing and offended that other people got offended by posts you didn’t post.