I believe a little self-centering is needed. When setting priorities you gotta make sure you are okay so helping others would be easier. 
Ya feel? But sometimes I feel like I only talk about me so I know what you mean. All the luck to you @Minnii 
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A good metaphor is when youāre in an airplane you always gotta put the oxygen mask on yourself before putting it on the child next to youā¦at least thatās what they tell you 
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Thatās exactly what I was thinking when I wrote this!! I always laugh when I hear this on the plane.
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Thanks for the input everyone, very much appreciated 
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Weād all like some pics of the new placeā¦once youāre settled! 
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ah, love the patronizing here.
ā¦I donāt follow you.
whatever you want, Patrick, a discussion from a woman, or an adoration.
Men decide easily who they love online, Iāve found it never fades, despite anything the woman wants to discuss.
Solipsismā¦ happens to me tooā¦
Iām finding itā¦ Iāve finally got good friends who make me feel a helluva lot less special because theyāre pretty damn comparable to me in all waysā¦ which was difficult to wrap my head around at first but I jsut stuck with it and then suddenly I felt like I was just hanging with themā¦ not like they were something elseā¦
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In such situations I always refer to the law of a probability. How probable is it that I have this super extra power to be different to other people/ to the wide mediocrityā¦ chances are very smallā¦ it takes me back to the ground. I am nobody special, nobody who would get any more interest than anybody else. It is good to be averageā¦ so then my thoughts are irrationalā¦ that is my thinking process of reasoning with my irrational beliefsš
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Lots of people struggle with this problem. But the burning question is: Is it self-centered to work on being less self-centered?
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Oh damn! didnāt think of that! 
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Iām very similar to you. I too am impatient with trivial details that donāt interest me. I shy away from a person who is burying me in minutia. But Iāve found that you impress people more when you pay attention to what theyāre saying than when you work hard to impress them. Always trying to impress people is really boring. The thing to do is to master the art of conversation. I still havenāt done that in the fifty-seven years I have been alive.
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I do try to do that, Iām a good listener, just sometimes I get irritable with others. I wish I wouldnāt.