I am 55 and female and my children are in their late 20’s and on their own. I avoid dating sites because I am asexual. I can’t have sex. It is too much for me. I have been on celibate and asexual dating sites for over 15 years, so I am somewhat of an expert in this realm, and it is near impossible to find a compatible man that is asexual. By and large, men are sexual creatures. Even on asexual sites, the conversation turns to their desire for sex. I totally get that I am stuck in a sexual, casual dating culture and it is what it is, but I am so lonely. All my friends have no MI and have families and careers.
I also lost my car to make matters worse, so if I tried Bumble BFF, I’d have no way to meet up for coffee.
i never have but i have thought about the idea. i wouldnt have to worry about the whole man thing cause i would prefer a relationship with a woman so that would be good. but idk. i dont really feel lonely and dont know if i really wanna bother
I feel kind of lonely too and am asexual or celibate. Not interested in any romantic relationships. Just friends. There’s this 1 nice girl at my support group I spoke to her on the bus last week. Sorry that you feel lonely. Maybe things will change. Support groups?
At least there’s this forum, aswell. I know it’s not the same as irl friends necessarily, but it’s something
Thanks for the responses, @Zoe and @irrelevant
I wish I could find a man that didn’t want sex and fall in love. Voacational Rehab is going to help me find a PT job so I can keep my disability. Then I can buy another car and try to meet female friends online for get togethers. Wish me luck:)
I just jumped on BFF and swiped a few ladies. I should have a car in 2 or 3 months. Thx for the well- wishes.
Oh…ironically, I joined a disability dating site. I am disabled and I thought I could meet a man who can’t have sex. Maybe who is in a wheelchair or something. So far, they all checked “physical intimacy” as a priority, lol. Oh well. I’ll hang in there!
You literally posted on here only a couple of weeks ago that you “Wanted a guy with a big pen’is” and now you’re saying your asexual…? Can you make up your fu’cking mind for once?
I want a boyfriend, nah im better off single, I want a boyfriend, nah im better off single, i want a boyfriend, repeated a million times
I like sex, no im asexual, i like sex, no im asexual, i like sex, no im asexual, repeated a million times.
I’m almost 50 and have never had a sexual relationship and totally get it! I started antipsychotics at 16 years old and it really killed my libido. I go to my clubhouse and church and NAMI meetings and have a few close friends but mostly have “associates”… it’s so hard to make and maintain friendships, it’s so much work! But I’m in a better place in that regards than I was just a few years ago, it’s just so awkward and takes effort…
@WhiteRaven I tried and tried to hang in there for 46 years. I had many sexual relationships. I acted for their sake. I have had sex with only one man in the last 9 years. That was 2 or 3 years ago. I t was awful. I am resigned to being single, I guess. Glad you have your activities to keep you busy
@TheCanuk yeah i agree about that. i dont think its right to just decide to be single in a week and then declare yourself asexual.
asexual isnt “im tired of dating right now and gonna be single”
like for me. im mid 30s. i HAVE NEVER in my whole life felt a sexual attraction to another person. i have never wanted sex. i did lose my virginity because i was embarrased to still be a virgin and had the oppertunity. but i have never looked at a man or woman and thought they were sexually attractive or wanted to have sex with them.