I have been known to cuss out or scare the guy upstairs when he bugs me sometimes. The bad thing about it is that I have been holding back from threatening the woman next door in any way. I learned the first month I was here that she would not trust me if I did anything threatening.
But the walls are thin and I think that she has been vaguely doing physical threats to me too. I’ve been wrong before and she is nice, so maybe I’m wrong. Is it crazy to feel threatened through a wall? Sometimes i feel so threatened by neighbors when I’m inside that it feels like they’re almost a physical presence inside my apartment.
Don’t worry, I’m wouldn’t lay a hand on the ladies next-door in a million years and everybody on here knows it… OR the young woman upstairs either.
But maybe I would to the jerk upstairs. Maybe because I am from a different generation but it seems to be a tightrope act these days with women. @Ninjastar chewed us out last week for differentiating how to treat women as opposed to men. I get that, I have two sisters and we are all equal.
But what do you do when you are 57 years old and being threatened by grown women and as a result of this they are changing my life but we can’t touch women? I don’t want to anyways. But it is sure a tightrope act on how to deal with a human being when they can threaten you but you are not allowed to threaten the very people who play on weaknesses and than they cry “foul” if you respond. I don’t think this post is sexist, I get along fine with many of the women at work and the men. I don’t do anything inappropriate except treat the soldiers like soldiers and human beings. I can’t say they treat me the same way. Just for the record, I pride myself on not getting violent in the 39 years I’ve had schizophrenia.
But the only reason I’m bring up physical issues today is that I got up this morning to the jerk upstairs stomping loudly when I was in the kitchen and my bedroom with subtle insulting noises. And when I was showering it sounded like someone was stomping or hitting the walls. So I rarely post stuff like this at all but as you say, Hedgehog, I’m not the sacrificial lamb and I felt physically threatened.
I hope this doesn’t turn people off on here, it most likely will get ignored. Now I’m going to drop the subject and focus on hummingbirds, the cool breeze, free pepperoni, and finding 12-packs of soda for half-price!
I know full well that you are more than capable of putting your foot down when folks get on your nerves. But kindness is a virtue not a weakness. Though on the same token if you ignore the situation it may only serve to empower the malcontents. I had to knock on my neighbors door when her kids were banging on the walls. She knows where I stand on that now and hardly any issues since. Can be tough to do no doubt.
But a 300 lb bully. That would unnerve me for sure. Can you write an anonymous letter about showing proper respect? Assuming the ogre can read of course.
I am so blessed to have wonderful, quiet and friendly neighbors who mind their own business. I live alone and have lived alone for the past eleven years.
IDK, but you might be wrong, at least on some. People can be jerks, and I don’t live there, but why would the ladies upstairs laugh at you? You do have the dad jokes but otherwise you don’t seem like the kind of person random people would laugh at.
To put it plainly, I’m not positive but I was stressed and when I “break”, or “lose my cool” there is always some person waiting to pounce on it and laugh or take advantage. This is my take on it, I’m kind of getting tired of this subject but some people just mess with you just to get you to give up. I experience this in certain situations, you know what I mean?
I clued in on the free pepperoni, @77nick77. That could make anyone happy!
I remember how stressful apartment living is. It’s difficult to be surrounded by humans, especially when they’re disrespectful and rude to you. I’m so sorry you’re dealing with that! Our neighbors across the street make a lot of noise, particularly playing loud music into the night most summer evenings. I called the police once when the music continued past 10pm. They always shut it off just before 10:00 now…
I wonder if you can talk with your neighbors and ask them if they have any issues with you because you perceive some angry actions on their part? That way, you can give them a chance to say if you’re bugging them, and also point out that they’re being aggressive. If nothing comes of that, I would complain to the manager about specific noises they’re making along shared walls, etc. Hold them accountable.
I’ve wanted to break my neighbors windows or throw eggs into their yard when they’re being obnoxious. I hold back, but it’s fun to think about.
We’re not less than, @77nick77. We aren’t criminals for having sz. We, as a group, are not violent. You deserve respect and you have a right to communicate that to those around you either directly, through a note or via the property manager. ️
I do know what you mean. I’ve experienced ■■■■■■■ behavior as well. Although now that I am older it seems that most people actually don’t find other people’s distress amusing. Except tennis balls to the crotch on America’s Funniest videos.
Good post hedgehog. It is better to keep a cool head in situations like I’m going through and not react. I guess I have some things to think about from you guys.
Idk why my neighbour is so nasty, she seems intent on causing me trouble ever since I moved in her and her friend both had it in for me it’s sick, I haven’t ever done anything to them, they have no right making my life a misery so I’m going to a lawyer to get legal advice, I already got the police over about it but it’s more a civil matter
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it’s sick, I haven’t ever done anything to them, they have no right making my life a misery so I’m going to a lawyer to get legal advice, I already got the police over about it but it’s more a civil matter