I’m alienating all my neighbors. When I moved in I was in love with this place and quickly met the other three tenants in the building. I thought the older lady was nice (she still is, even after a year and a half) and her roommate was a twenty-something woman. We were on a “greeting only basis”, which means only saying “hi” but on good terms.
The upstairs guy who I hate now was cool at first. He overheard me say something about smoking pot when I was talking to my roommate and he got curious and was friendly. That relationship went south quickly because when I get tired I tend to invade people space. He did it too, but he started laughing and being insulting and disrespectful towards me and after a few months of this I ended up cussing him out and then somehow he turned defending his apartment into controlling me and intimidating me and harassing me and that set a pattern and we will never get along now.
I know most people would have gone right away to talk to him or threaten him to stop but I put it off and it progressed and now I have talked to him and even left a note on his door politely asking him to leave me alone. He didn’t skip a beat and he continued and I know I have scared him and his roommate many times and at least I learned that I can defend myself verbally.
But his roommate who I thought was cool has to be loyal to the jerk, and so he does sh*t too. WTF!!?? I moved in wanting to get along with everybody and live in peace and quiet and now I’m alienated and treated badly. And a new lady moved in several months ago who was nice but now she is a nasty bitc it turns out. She drives me nuts but I see that she’s small and needs to be nasty to survive. I can live with that.
Screw it, I’ve won and will keep winning. But the house next door knew we are disabled and I learned they are using us. I started using them but I thought we would remain civil but that is up in the air, I barely see them anyways.
WTF, these people are as*holes. I grew up in an apartment and I got along with every other tenant all through high school (to varying degrees). So I’m not the bad guy here, I’m not causing trouble except for defending myself. I get along with people. The older lady I feel sorry for because I treated her a little bad when she incessantly was laughing through our shared wall. I feel bad because she is still friendly to me and I think she must have low self-esteem. But I guess I’m maturing because she is so nice but I suspect she has a trick up her sleeve. I forgot about being cynical but now I remind myself that it’s a good thing. Sad.
Not going to answer that. Except to say this place was built in 1940. The walls are built like paper. This crap is not 24 hours a day. It happens sporadically. I have many good relaxing times where I enjoy living here and the place is a steal for this area (Silicon Valley). The rent is $538.00 a month, it’s a tree lined street close to work with a supermarket just minutes away. Compared to the board & care this place is paradise.
The lady laughed incessantly through the wall. The guy upstairs is home the majority of the days and drinks. He hears every sound I make. This apartment is for mentally ill people. I’ may be sensitive to sound, but who says he isn’t too.
Oh sorry, I didn’t mean to pry I just wanted to understand the situation before I offered my two cents. I’m sorry you have to live in such close quarters, that must be tough. My grand-dad used to live in an apartment above a girl who threw parties every weekend, it was a nightmare. I spent every Saturday night with him growing up, and I’d confront her about it and she or her boyfriend/friend (i didn’t know who it was) would just shout me down, usually drunk. We complained and eventually she moved out.
In California we have a nice neighbor with a pair of young kids who are really cool. There’s crying every now and then but we don’t mind it, the kids are well behaved. I guess it’s the luck of the draw.
Ok thanks. Sorry about the people bugging your grandfather. When I was in 11th grade our downstairs neighbor was a young couple with a kid. They were nice people but the woman was LOUD. And she talked a lot. It was annoying but she was cute so I gave her a free pass. (I made the last part up.) During the summer good weather she held court outside our window with other neighbors talking loudly for hours. That was the only trouble she caused though. And their screen door slammed loudly 3 or 4 times a day. I could tune that sh*t out back then.
When I first read your post I thought maybe all this isn’t really going on. But you then said it’s other mentally ill people. And we’ll. I know I’m on the crazy train too but when I’m around other sick people strange things happen especially in living situations. Weird synchronization, laughing, bangs and noises. That’s why in Canada they stick 1 or 2 sick people in a building full of normies. Usually you have to be high functioning. But we blend right in and no one’s the wiser. So I had to live around crazy roommates and neighbors before and it’s not fun. It’s like abuses so subtle they can’t even be talked about. So that being said, I feel for you man. And hope things get in line for you.
Man, you hit the nail right on the head. All that stuff you mention goes on here. But not all day so I’m going to stay here. I’m just out of practice because most of my hospitalizations were almost 30 years ago. I lived in the normie world for so long but now I’m back in supported housing. Very confusing. Thanks for the answer.
Read my other post I wrote and see my reply to you. It was ruder than I meant it to be but I just read this and now I’m glad it was rude as you seem to be picking on me. You did this about 5 months ago out of the blue and I felt like I was backstabbed since I have shown you nothing but respect. But I can’t expect everybody to treat me perfect and I have been attacked before.
I’m sorry if I seemed rude to you @77nick77 but this was not my intention.
I honestly don’t know what’s going on between you and your neighbors but to me it sounded like you were experiencing delusions, but maybe I was wrong.
My sincerest apologies to you.
This isnt the first time somebody posted that they were having issues with other people in their life and they got accused of being delusional. Your story is believable to me. I believe this is happening in the real world not just in your head. Its sound like this is the tradeoff for getting cheap rent in California. If you want cheap rent at a decent place you gotta have ass**** neighbors. Sorry to here this is happening to you.