My area is high school kids and 50-year-olds with no in between. Very frustrating. I might have to pull out the pervert normie strategy. And talk to every girl I see. Because waiting for the right girl right time right w.e will never work. Just builds up the tension and anxiety and then when the time is right, the time is wrong. If I talk to every female I see, maybe something will click. I doubt it tho since there are no girls my age in my area… but I’ll have fun if I talk to practically everyone again. Ughhh but then my arm shakes from the Zoloft so if I actually got someone’s number. She’d be like why is ur arm shaking. Sucks being sz.
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I was an anxious mess until 23, 27 now. My best bet for you is sticking to dating apps at first and then go for the pub crawl/bar if that’s your thing. Depends on what you’re after. There are many decent women on dating apps, they’re like you. Looking for a good partner. Just take that first step. No pressure.
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No dating apps don’t work. I’m terribly unphotogenic and I’ve been on dating apps for 9 years!! And I’ve never gotten a date from them.
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So am i, I have a broken nose. I just pick a good ligjting. I haven’t talked to a woman asides from family in about 8 months and I’m anxious. It truly is about confidence. I’m short and average. Many guys like me so fine, you can do it man
Though I’m sure others willgive better advise
I have the confidence I just don’t have the timing. That’s what I’m saying about starting conversation with every single person practically that I see. It will get my timing into line
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I’ve seen your pic now ( no spy ) haha. You look good man. I’ve got no advise about what to say maybe someone will I hope.
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And I’m diagnosed sz aswell. I don’t judge on that because many many are worse than I. We can come up with the funniest ■■■■ that win over women.
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I know I’m a good looking guy. My confidence is oozing right now ever since I got my hairs cut. I feel I look really good. And I feel really good mentally. And I’ve written books, made music. But I don’t want to do any more of that!!! I just want a gf so I could motherfreaking relax. This girl once told me in spite that “a lover won’t help you!!” When really it was all I have ever needed… she ruined my life in many ways and then she tried to kick me in the face by saying a girlfriend won’t help me. When it was all I ever really needed all along. She couldn’t be more wrong.
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Your face on a dating app would do fine. I get what you mean exactly. Reason why I haven’t talked to one in a while is because I rely on being funny and ive been psychotic half this year. We can’t always win my man. You’ll do fine
Good luck broski! I think it’s a valid point that having someone won’t necessarily fix all your problems, but what if you go in, imperfect, like everyone else, not expecting that, just to be made a bit more happy because you have something you’ve been waiting for for a long time.
And if you aren’t any more happy, you have the option to find someone else, same as anyone else.
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I don’t know if you’re working, but on dating sites being unemployed is an automatic deal breaker for most of them usually.
I just hate messaging women knowing I likely won’t get anything back, It feels degrading. It’s easier for me to say “How are you” knowing I’ll likely get “pretty good, you?” as an actual response. And that’s not easy at all for me. I’ve only talked to like 2-3 women really. At least I didn’t have to read profiles saying how guys like me are useless. I won’t get anywhere but at least I get something back.
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Sorry if i sound like a b!stard and a bit too harsh. But maybe sort yourself out first and the rest will follow. Have a wank instead. Problem solved. The companionship and lonliness can be solved by going out and going to a pub.
Im sorry but i get a bit sick of this “softly softly” approach around mental health.
Sometimes we all have to give in to our desires and be selfish bastrds.
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If you mean me, I’m the best I’ve been since I got sick. I can’t drink, I’m on Lithium.
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Go find a bar then - Man up and go in - and if someone comments on why your not drinking just say your on anti-biotics. its all well and good pissing and moaning on a forum, when you should just have the balls to meet people.
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I seriously don’t even like to be around people that are drinking heavily. It sucks that bars are all there is.
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There are plenty of real hard core builders in my bar that are not ashamed of ordering an orange juice after work. You dont have to drink alcohol to sit in a bar and enjoy the atmosphere. I had social anxiety - but once you get over that, yeah go ahead - chat up a few woman. You might be pleasantly surprised. And then maybe one day, one will offer to come home with you. Most woman dont like drunk men anyway - play on your sensitive side…
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I think your problem isn’t a lack of girls in your area. You frequently talk to girls and get their numbers. Your problem is that they’re not right for you, so it doesn’t work out and you end up sad and hurt. I think you should keep your standards where they are, because trying to lower your expectations just so you don’t have to be alone will ultimately make you even more miserable. You’ll stay with a girl who doesn’t suit you, and make both of you miserable because she’ll know you don’t really like her and you’ll feel like you can’t have a more meaningful relationship. I’ve seen it happen way too much.
It’s better to stay lonely than tie yourself to someone wrong for you and ruin two lives. That way, you’ll be free when the right person eventually comes along. I know it sucks to wait, though.
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Volunteer work. You’ll find there is usually a 2:1 or higher ratio of ch1x0rz to d00ds. Even better, the ladies who volunteer tend to be the nicest sort and they usually span all age groups. Great opportunity to meet those with interests like your own.
Cheers.
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I did sign up for the animal shelter, wish I’d hear back. The women in the adoption videos 
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I can vouch for that. In my organization there are about ten volunteers who are girls and three who are boys. One is enby.
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