I’m trying very hard to find girlfriend.Don’t know how to approach a girl,when I tell I have psychiatry issues,everyone react by blocking me.It’s also hard with girls who also have mental illness,because of misunderstanding of course of relationship.Feel very stupid around normal people and can hear often laughter of girls who know I have mental problems.It’s getting harder with years,since my health declines from variety of reasons.My question is if someone came straight with SZ thing and kept the girl(woman).
Aleksandar.
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I wouldn’t come strait out with it unless she tells you she has issues. I would start by working on yourself first. Go to the gym, get in shape, eat healthy, don’t smoke. Then you start looking good and bam. You meet a girl who likes the same things as you.
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They laught behind my back when I went to gym.They saw I was confused and started talking.When I was working,I met many woman prepared to get married,but I knew I’ll fail if I go straight with SZ illness.Nobody wants ill husband.I was good looking then.
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I’ve done that ■■■■ too. You gotta get over it and go back. Or take walks in the park. It’s hard to have confidence when your ill, but if you start to look good you will feel better and then you will be more sure of yourself. Who knows, maybe they’ll come out with better medicine that doesn’t make us flat and overweight and unhealthy
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how did I get this beauty, eh mate?
well one day, I was sitting by the dock and this beautiful piece of sunshine splashed water on m’ coat. I knew there be something fishy! nonetheless, I went onboard and-
no. I didn’t get anyone. I just dream. 
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I am a bisexual woman. I found my last woman by attending a mental illness support group. She had a mental illness like me. She was standing off by herself, all alone, looking lonely and very appealing and approachable. So, I went up and made acquaintance. We ended up having a long talk. After the meeting, I invited her out to Village Inn with me for a late dinner. She accepted! Then, I pressed a piece of paper with my name, phone number, and address into her hand before we left. That was the beginning of a wonderful, rollercoaster of a 11 year romantic relationship that I wouldn’t trade for the world. This acquaintance is now, sorrowfully, ended. I am now blissfully celibate for God.
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I’m a woman… I’ve kept my man for 10 years though
He’s a normie, in work, but he has Asperger’s syndrome
I found him through a dating website… He got in touch with me twice
I used to be a real tart but he made me wait
Unless you’re very unwell hearing voices or thinking people are laughing at you is not a good reason to stay out of the gym…
There are other more lonely sports like running or cycling One thing to try is getting somewhere where are you do some couple of things on a bike… And just meet other people parking their bikes away for the same activity that you’re doing
Try a spin class,
go swimming
And do things like go to groups of disabled people in some sense or ordinary things like acting classes if you live in a big place
I do disability theatre myself
I’m sorry if I’m talking to you like i’m sorry if I’m talking to you like you know nothing… But I’ve been swimming for year twice a week and every time I was in the water or out of water I was hearing people laughing about me being fat this but when I run I hear people call me fat when I swim I hear people call me fat and laugh
You just have to tough it out
Of course I take back everything I’ve saidif you really are struggling with this in a big way… It’s just not excuse not to keep fit
Although motivation is a big reason why not to I think… When I was running mum would take me to places to run places in the car which is nuts I should’ve just gone on walks with her I did end up running half marathons every three months though with her support
You don’t sound like you have enough support
Try to find it in some kind of disability group
Or charity work
Planting trees is a good one. But it’s very hard work
If you’re near the sea, clean beaches
If you know the woods do path maintenance work
If you’re in the city to park maintenance
All good physical things where you might meet someone or at least become more datable
If you health is bad start small
It’s enough to do something a few hours a week.
Where I live there are extras casting companys
If you have specific rule with benefits around working money
I think you can still do it once every week or couple of times a month
I’m sorry I’m still spouting off
All I ever seem to do
What’s wrong with your health?
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I don’t want a relationship with a human being. My relationship is with the Lord.
I have a mental illness called schizoaffective schizophrenia.
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okay, I’ll be honest. I did meet this one woman while I was in the psych ward. she was a mother who would hurt herself. I wrote poems to her and she excepted them; (basically, I was lucky because I’ve gotten into deep poop for sharing my poems.) we ate lunch together and she always gave me her food, even though I told her that she shouldn’t. she even got offended when I suggested she shouldn’t, sometimes.
we would walk around the psych ward, talking and whatnot. we were cool. I guess you can say we were friends.
then one day I woke up and I couldn’t find her. halfway through the day, I realized that she got discharged.
she was a mother who needed to go back to her kids anyhow. and I was 19 (close to 20, I remember losing my teenhood in the psych ward), so I didn’t think to ask for her phone number or anything: I wasn’t a fast thinker and it was the first time I connected with someone like I did with her.
I hope she’s doing okay, wherever she is.
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I’ve been diagnosed with that and schizophrenia
At different times by different psychiatrists
My diagnosis has gone back to schizophrenia paranoid
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That’s one thing that keeps me from falling apart.I have no real sexual interest toward woman,just trying to find a real female friend.Think after twenty years of being alone,I kinda deserve a female friend.Maybe just want to get married.Guess that things happen when you least expect.
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Maybe it s better to find a woman has same mental problems as like you otherwise it would be very hard to find normal woman.
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No,it’s not problem to find “normal” woman,it’s when you mention mental illness they run away.I’ve spoke to one women who had similar problems like me,but when we finally met,there was not chemistry.We never spoke again.
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Most of the women I’ve dated have come from dating web sites. My diagnosis is bipolar-type sza, though there have been times when I was considered bipolar with psychotic features. I would always let her get to know me a little first, so she could see I’m a good guy. It was usually after a couple dates that I would test the waters by telling her about the bipolar stuff; if that went ok, then shortly after I would admit to the psychosis. I’ve been rejected upon telling women about the psychotic side of my illness, and it stings. There have been a few, like my ex-wife, who liked me enough to look past those problems, though. I have a feeling that in the future if I date a woman and tell her I’m schizoaffective, all she will need to hear is that prefix schizo- and she’ll be out. I haven’t dated since I gave up alcohol, and even that I think will be a problem, when she asks me why I don’t drink. At least that I could put a positive spin on, being an alcoholic who doesn’t drink. I don’t think I could handle dating a woman who also has severe MI.
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Actually there is lot of couple who has same illness.if you have disease like sz your opportunities are getting smaller
One thing is important,not to be lazy about finding your life partner.I have problem with leg,had injury two years ago,which prevents me from walking and going to city or church.I think I have qualities,worked charity before injury,think that I’ll be still work with homeless people if I could.Problem with the leg is serious,and when I sum it all up,I think there’s little chance to meet miss “right for me”.She has to be open and big heart woman to be with me under condition.Anyway,life is good,not complaining,it’s that people around me keep telling me should not be so alone.One of my SZ friends got married last year with a very normal woman,and he loves me and tries to get me in touch with his and her friends who are SZ.At first I rejected,but later I got in touch with a female who has seen my photo and agreed to meet me.But then intrusive thoughts came like storm so I couldn’t go for a date.Managed some how to chat with her on facebook,but she hesitated and we and up with nothing.
I’ll keep trying.Thank you for your attention and support very much.
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By pushing my recovery to the point where I was attractive to one.
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This is exactly how I got married. No matter how hard it was, I kept striving to recover from my TBI and psychosis. My husband wouldn’t have looked twice at me if I wasn’t capable of being independent and functional on my own.
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I was in denial self medicating and undxed I worked hard and was very social…so I was functional charming wouldn’t ever say normal but good enough to hide Sz from the world all these years…but I wouldn’t recommend this course of action I think if I got help when I was young I wouldn’t be crippled to this extent by Sz now…
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Read 3 % Man by Corey Wayne, it’s a book, recently he made it free on his website. If you speak about yourself to women like you do on your posts, then it’s no wonder you’re not having any luck. I always say that the challenges made me stronger. And yea, don’t say you’re ill too soon.