My sister is my close friend for many years. We used to spend a lot of time together. When she has babies, we took care of the babies together. But she doesnt want anything to do with me after my sz. She cut off with me and never talk to me again for 6 years. Today we spent a little time together. I so want to rebuild a relationship with her. Inside I know it’s impossible. I’m abandoned. I have a lot of hard feelings meeting my cruel sister and my aunt. We seldom gets together. But when we do, it tends to bring up a lot of hard feelings.
I have another sister who is not as close to me before sz. This sister still loves me. She would talk to me and let me join in. It’s the different of a whole world.
That’s got to hurt.
I know I didn’t change into a monster once I got Dx’d Sz, but the way many people ‘changed’ around me, you’d think I grew 10 heads.
Sorry you have to lose someone so close to you, hope she can come around soon, but if you can’t work through your hard feelings around her, you’ll risk losing her a second time.
I think finance is another reason for her behavior. I used to have a good income with a high status job. I often want to have money as I know she would probably come back if only i have good money. I think it is the truth. But it’s so stupid.
That’s pretty petty. Not very family orientated, hope she raised her kids differently.
No doubt the tables will turn and she’ll get a taste of her own medicine.
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goggles the sister that abandoned you is not worth your attention.
Only if she comes to you and apologizes profusely and explains that things have changed and she regrets her deeds,
only then you can deal with her.
Otherwise just forget about her.
I know this is a good advice. I just feel uncomfortable a lot of time after family gathering. She did not talk to me everytime we get together. I feel so odd. It has been 6 years since I’ve sz. She never asked me how are you or anything. She just keep a cold distance with me.
I am sorry for you goggles.
But this is really good advice.
There are enough good people out there, and it is them you should be dealing with.
Try to get over her.
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I wish to meet a few more good person s. 
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i feel like this sometimes because all my relatives are far away and im just here alone.
Anything cruel or offensive you said to your sister was a product of the disease and I hope she knows that.