Quite a few, actually!
Then you don’t just cut off anyone at anytime.
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And quite a few who I support! It’s when a relationship becomes a constant drain on my mental health and emotional resources that I draw the line
Do you warn or ghost?
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I warn. A lot. Probably more than I should.
I agree with zombie that’s dirty. A fair weather friend is not a friend at all.
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Then that isn’t dirty.
My problem is just dropping someone without any explanation and when they’re in a bad spot.
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What if your friends start drawning you in drugs or ask you constantly for money? These are not friends, they’re parasites.
This isn’t about that.
It’s specifically about one person in a rough spot and abandoning them due to it.
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Well I was talking about the guy who stole 2000£ from her, she just gave it to him, he never paid back and she stayed friends with him. But now she said she’s not friends anymore with him.
The person I cut out was in a bad spot. They were constantly in bad spots and expecting me to play therapist. I talked to them about it multiple times, they didn’t get it, we parted ways.
If @Zoe can’t handle this relationship, she should be allowed to break it off.
I’m talking about the other person. The post is about them. And so far all we know is they are in a rough spot, potentially.
If they were drugging and drinking, then I’d be on board with dropping them.
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I dunno I could be wrong. It’s happened before 
Sure, she should, but not everyone will agree that it is nice.
She said they were close and it’s only been 2 months. No word on if they were moaning, just that their situation stresses her.
If that so, that’s pretty sad and not the way a real friend behaves.
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Yea she wasn’t clear about it. She said she’s leaving him just in case he asks for money. Idk I guess its wrong if he didn’t ask for money or any big favors.
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And that’s what I am basing my opinion on.
Dropping someone due to a potential situation. I mean, god, of people dropped friends because they were poor I would have no friends.
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Okay, I think I see your point. I’m still caught up on the principle of the thing, but I see where you’re coming from
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Yeah, I’m going off the provided information. And based on that, it’s sketchy.
That being said, anyone should be able to cut someone off at any time due to mental health. BUT it can still be a dirty move.
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I have helped people in the past, they just disappeared, got what they could, I’m not trusting anymore and have switched to looking after me , I can help with time but thats it no cash, I got enough of my own money woes
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If it stresses me long term
It is the right thing to end it if I want
I have a history of relapsing in such situations
I have also warned this person earlier on
I’m not just going to play Russian roulette with my mental health thanks.
N like I said I want to help them. But they won’t take my advice.
For example they don’t have to do hospitality they could try cleaner job. More reliable. But no they say they are better than that.
Or
Housing benefits.
But again no
We disagree on important things therefore.