I have a problem with this. I get angry with someone I know, or annoyed at something they’ve done, then I cut them out of my life completely. I’m not sure why I do it.
I had a good friend. We’ve known each other for years. I recently deleted him from all my networking apps and haven’t contacted him in a couple months. I didn’t tell him why, I’m not even sure why myself.
I periodically go on purges of my networking apps. I’ve cut my Facebook, Skype and G+ down to a handful of contacts.
I am not a social animal and probably never will be but I’d like to change this purging of friends and family. It really bothers me.
Sometimes purging is probably not a bad idea. I think I need to on Facebook.
If you truly regret it after the fact then maybe the next time you get that urge ask yourself a question or two first. Why am I doing this? If the answer doesn’t come right away then see if you can put off doing it for 24 + hours and see if the urge is still there later one. Is it possible that some form of paranoia is causing it? Or negative feelings that need an outlet?
My brother is very much like this. He broke off ties with me and our father for about 6 months. With him it was depression and problems at work, I also think his wife had something to do with it, but at this point its pure speculation on my part. He finally decided to go back on an antidepressant and is doing better.
I dont know why he did it, I dont think he knows really - it just happened. Sometimes we take our anger out at the closest people in our lives, Ive done this plenty of times. We do this, because at some level we know they can handle it and forgive us.
I’m sitting here in my birthday den trying to figure out how to back away from a brother who I need to back away from. Two of the brothers and I are OK.
The other… Wow. Not motivated by logical thought or reasoning. Going through something dark and has decided to focus that darkness on me.
The sis doesn’t regret her actions of late, but she is trying to send out the vibe that should he finally crumble, she’ll be there to help put humpty dumpty back together. I don’t know. Would this be a cut tie and don’t look back sort of deal…
or should I take my cue from the never off duty lifeguard. Can’t do anything right now but keep and eye open and get ready for the save… sometimes she’s a lot nicer then I am.
I like your sisters approach. When dealing with family, addiction etc there are no easy answers. Until he is willing to accept responsibility for what he is doing I don’t think there is to much you guys can do right now. Hopefully one day in the not to distant future that will change.
i had a friend once for about 15 years and she was always putting me down and stressing me out. she was in love with my husband and she wanted him and the kids but not me. sometimes i think she needed someone to put down to make herself feel better about her own situation. she used to phone me at stupid times of the night to go and pass her a cigarette coz she couldn’t get out of bed. my kids once they were older saw through her manipulation of me and hated her for it, which put me in a tough spot. i guess i stayed friends with her bcoz i felt sorry for her but after my husband died she became even worse, phoning me up and sobbing uncontrollably down the phone that she missed him so much and she needed to hold the kids in her arms and comfort them. my son saw red completely and said, anyone would think she was his widow and not me. then came the final straw, on my husband birthday after he died she phoned me up and had a massive go at me because the kids didn’t want her here to cut his birthday cake. she put her own feelings b4 my kids and i blew my top completely. i cut her out of my life from that day forward, blocked her on facebook and didn’t return her calls. she sent me a cake in the summer and a plant for christmas. i ignored both and they went in the bin. my kids detest her and won’t visit her anymore because of her manipulation of me over their father. they think she is a bunny boiler like fatal attraction. she’s very upset that i won’t return her calls bcoz that means she has no access to the kids. but she is poisonous. since i cut her out of my life i’m sooo much calmer. there are no longer 37 messages on the ansaphone from her each week bcoz i won’t answer her calls. she brought this whole thing on herself and i and the kids r glad we now on’t have contact. if u need someone out of ur life because they give u nothing but stress then do it. i spent years backing down and trying to keep the peace but as soon as i cut her out of my life it was like a weight lifted off my shoulders.
Right there… Bingo. That is what I was trying to put to words. 
