What do you do if you have no friends and can’t walk far ? My usual routine if I do go out is a short walk to a cafe to sit by myself while I have something to eat and drink. Most days I don’t even think about going out .
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Start from where you are. Set small, attainable, achievable goals.
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I’m not even sure what those goals could be. I need a positive reason for going out. The only real difference between staying in and going out is 960 steps there and back and being surrounded by a few more people.
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I don’t go out a whole lot, even though i am technically able to. I go to pdoc and therapist appointments once a month and i pick up meds at the pharmacy. Not much beyond that. I think @FlyingPurplePeopleMeeter has good advice. I’d give that a try.
I usually just go to see my psychiatrist and therapist.
I’ll go to the market once in a while and go help drop my mom off at day care twice a week.
Rarely I’ll go to Costco with my dad.
I think you have family dont you? To hang around with,?
@firemonkey
Examples of Goals
Little Interaction with Other People
- Go to the gym and walk on the treadmill
- Go to the library and read a book
- Go to the theater and watch a movie
Medium Interaction
4. Go to the gym and take a class
5. Attend a conference
6. Go to church
Heavy Interaction
7. Join a club
8. Attend group therapy
9. Take an adult continuing education class
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Not a gym person
Easiest option. Library is very near me. Not sure about just sitting and reading a book though . I’m not keen on taking books out since libraries went self service. Used to take books out before they did.
I did go to a group at the library once but it seemed to be for the ‘worried well’. I struggled to say very much , and when I did speak it didn’t stimulate much of a response . All the others were interacting well and I was the odd one out.
Too fast paced and requiring too much coordination.
Definitely not .
Atheist.
It would especially be getting past the difficulty initiating a conversation , and how to make the opening to talk to someone. The unwritten rules of social engagement are picked up instinctively by most people,but not me.
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I pretty much only ever leave on Sunday afternoons to go grocery shopping. Maybe once every couple months I’ll go out for another reason. I’ve recently started going to the clubhouse to run, but it’s only the next building over and I don’t see anyone else while I’m there. All my social interactions are done online.
I’m doing pretty much the same thing. I walk from my apartment to day treatment and back, and I almost never go anywhere else, except on the days when we go to town. I’ve got my tv and my computer, and I read a little. Every once in a while I do some writing. That’s pretty much what I have done most of my life. I keep hoping that if I lock myself away from the world and stay in my room that great novels will start to pour forth from my pen, but I’m not doing the backbreaking amount of work it takes to be a great writer. I was pondering how I would feel if I suddenly got the word that I would die soon. It was a bitter feeling because I have done so little with my life. I do have a few good acts to my name, but I still think I should have done better.
You’re older now that can be a reason. My old conationals don’t do much, they usually go to the market and socialise there. Maybe you can do that, my old conationals they go to the store, watch TV, play Rummy, play chess, and go to the market.
@firemonkey
The library it is! Let me know when you go. Even if you just go to walk around. You don’t need to take out any books, and you don’t need to sit and read. Just start somewhere.
The last three months I’ve only left my home to go shopping or visit my wife at her apartment one weekend instead of her coming home. I can leave my home, I just prefer not to as my home is set up for my entertainment and comfort. The last two weekends have been annoying as I’m a volunteer Santa photographer at some local stores. Too many people (with screaming infants) packed into short time windows. Blech.
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@firemonkey I may be wrong, but I think you need to care more about this world, the environment, the people, even the trees in the streets or parks. If you learned to care more, you will be motivated to go out more to see them and watch them. If you care more about people, you will be intersted to sit at the coffee house and look at the people there, noticing what kind of clothes they are wearing and the way they talk and smile. If you care more about fashion, you will motivated to windowshop and just see how long sleeved those new clothes are or how many layers the lady’s skirts have.
By the way, I was wondering why you rarely interact with other members here on this forum by giving resonse to some of the threads that other members initiated? It’s important for you to show you are intersted in other members here, in which way you can make new friends here.
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That’s how I see the conversation trending.
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yesterday, after the doctor, Phil wanted to shop at WalMart
it was the last place I wanted to be
then he saw two people he knew and had to stand there
talking to them for 20 minutes. I did find my brother a nice razor kit.
I’m having de ja vu that I posted this exact same thing last year. hmmm.
I guess punctuation would have helped
heehee.
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I wouldn’t go to Walmart with Doctor Phil. He would be too intrusive. If he was in a Santa outfit I would go with him.
I ride my skateboard everywhere. Maybe you could get a bike? I don’t have any friends either. My mom is the only person I knew to hang out with on my birthday yesterday. She’s moving soon , so I guess I’ll be in the same boat as you.