It might not go down well, but it’s not like I have anything to lose. I just feel i will get some relief from it. I feel people don’t quite understand me.
I’ve done it. I started getting treated badly shortly afterwards, and the situation became so bad I had to quit. I don’t recommend it. Your employers are not your friends or confidants. You’re there to do a job and receive money. That should be the extent of your interactions.
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I told few people. But you know. …as I’m looking for other jobs I think you right. Put my head down do the job get out. I’m not there to mingle … I hate it I hate it.
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I hope you can find a better job. If you’re planning to use them as a reference, I definitely wouldn’t tell.
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My manager knows. It’s a government job though so it’s not gonna be easy to get rid.
Over the years I’ve learned that people take it different ways. I told the interview panel straight away and still got the job but as a new manager moved in I feel she’s trying her best to rid of me
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I never had a job. I am too bad at doing anything and, I never hide my mental health, I talk about it where ever and when ever I can.
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I told other people about my mental illness at a job, and they used it against me. I wouldn’t tell them. People might say that would make no difference to them, but it does.
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I told at my last job to explain frequent absences and my then-supervisor was far less than supportive. I had taken a three week short-term disability to attend a crisis program. All she kept saying was, “well, your doctor cleared you to return to work…” I kept saying that he shouldn’t have done that, but all she cared about was that.
We rarely communicated during my second short-term disability. When I was going on long-term disability (and losing my job since they were no longer required to hold it open for me), I went in to clean out my desk and all she said to me was, “well, you LOOK fine!” People just don’t get it.
I don’t recommend making your illness common knowledge.
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If it´s a “sudden urge” i would wait until the urge calms down a bit.
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I would keep your mouth shut as others have said. 20 odd years ago when i was working at a local authority - they found out i had an MI (wasnt Dxd Sz then) and were getting unhappy about the sick notes i was sending in. Ended up getting the sack on some horse-shite theft accusation, when in reality they wanted rid of me. It was bloody good pay for an 18 years old at the time as well.
Those arseholes - still had to house me years later in a council flat on medical grounds - so i think i won in the end.
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Better to say nothing and be thought a fool, than to open your mouth and let them know for sure. An old proverb.
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i wouldnt do it
I would not disclose your mi to them at work @anon80629714.
I told one person at work that I suffered with bipolar disorder and the following day everyone there knew.
My bosses knew and they gave me a hard time.
Don’t do it!
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At work they know I am a disabled veteran (some know 100%) and they now know I was on Social Security because I had to show them my tax returns but I wouldn’t dare say what for.
But if they dig into my personnel file they will see I self disclosed with a significant psychiatric disorder. People are inherently nosy and tend to gossip.
I work with mostly women and they often gossip about each other. We got a stern talking to about it earlier this week. If it continues there will be disciplinary action. I just let it go in one ear and out the other and haven’t made any complaints or paid any attention to it but I am sure they talk about me too.
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I might have to tell my boss for accommodations, but I dont want to.
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I ended up not saying anything and thank god for that.
its just like saying you’re gay or you’re an atheist.
some people will do a total 180 on you just because you said you were what you were
I’ve got cousins who are still closeted, just because their grandma treated another “out” (as though the rest of us aren’t aware of the others already) and its just been a mess.
same thing with mental health, some people think you’re a danger or that you’re not really as sick as you say and its their prerogative to punish you for lying or exploiting the system.
only speak up if you absolutely need to, or if you find someone you think its worth flipping tables over to make a connection with
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I wouldn’t tell anyone. In fact ive only told one person outside of the family, and she hasn’t done anything bad with the information, i do regret telling her. I still get slightly upset that some people in the family told some people. They didnt even ask me if that was ok w me. I still dont know how many people know when i go to a ‘party’ or whatever.
Anyway, to share a personal story about telling an employer: this employer said i was basically thought of like family, when i got the dx and told them later, they didnt even respond. Even when i recently asked if i could use them as a reference, nothing.
Dont tell anyone, people suck.
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What if your co-workers have a deliberate urge to use it against you?
You would be taking a chance and it might be OK and it might not.
You’re right, people take it different ways. I never tell any employer I have schizophrenia if I can help it but at a few jobs, my boss knew because the employer hired people with disabilities and I got the jobs through a mental health agency. But I remember I was talking to a co-worker many years ago and the conversation for some reason was about suicide. I mentioned 5 people I knew had committed suicide The woman instantly stiffened up and suspected something was not right about me. But I backed off and got myself out of the situation. Just her reaction told me I had almost told the wrong person.