The date yesterday went so amazingly well until he started discussing future plans and saving up for kids and whatnot. I feel bad he was so nice 
But then as I got home he tried to ask me if I wanted casual. Argh
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Was it a first date?
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Yes he brought up the subject not me ok
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Oh darlin I wasn’t judging anyone, but I got that from what you said. Just seems a little fast paced is all. If you like him, and want to give it a shot, maybe just talk about your concerns? Couldn’t hurt right?
I feel you on not wanting kids though, seems like a bit too much stress right now. There’s a lot of peeps as it is.
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I know what you mean, after you’ve been through this and someone wants to use you for ‘normals’ approach/breeder/legitimacy coordinator, it’s hell.
I worked at a charity for a while and saw all the babies turned away, there just wasn’t anything and the place run a chain of thrift stores. This is a GOOD charity by the way, not the wrong stuff…There’s no assistance with diapers. End up on ‘real welfare’ when able to work and your little family is worth $100 per person per month, which forced you to latch onto another man quick to be okay as some areas have no homeless shelter room. Child welfare also takes babies from schizos quicker over family arguments over what are just normal schizo symptoms and mental care policy is not to help with coping information, just leave you confused and get you in trouble. You can end up garnished up to your eyeballs for the baby taken away’s support and you even get to see it…Some of the males just use mental case lady for breeder and then turn her lose, he can get part of your disability pay. Many of these never see their kids or kids hate you type of situation formed.
Consider the Risperdal consta shots (which do cause temporary sterilization) but it does cause frigidity in females really quickly. Depo Provera shots are probably same stuff…Birth control pills do fail but better results if you choose not to have a period and just skip the inactive week (period week), go to next month’s package.
If on medicaid, you can get your tubes tied free or on medicare you can have your period go all the time for whatever reason, and get hysterectomy for low price. Doctors have been experimenting with up-the-vagina hysterectomies and seems to be harming a lot of women spreading HPV all over stomach cavity, causing worsening of endometriosis or increase chance of ectopic pregnancy for leaving in ovaries. Better to just have incision hysterectomy if you wish.
While SSDI recipients can get 50% higher benefits check for having children to support, sometimes it is a lifestyle issue or self protection/self preservation to be sterilized.
Can try all the oral sex and toys if you want to avoid pregnancy. Gets it done okay for a while for most of the new males you date.
Later you find more people who just do not want to have kids. Never fear.
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On the first date? Man!
It’s alright if you don’t want kids, don’t beat yourself up for it.
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This makes me sad. People make me wanna fly far away.
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Haha! It sounds like he was just throwing stuff out there to see what would stick.
Gambit one: Hey honey, I want a long term relationship with kids, and marriage and…
(wait… That’s not working)
Gambit two : do you just want a casual thing
(wait that’s not working)
Gambit three: etc etc
It reminds me of this song, which has a line “who do you want me to be, to make you sleep with me”
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Yeah, I agree, he probably was just saying what he thought you wanted to hear. Stillperkin is right about one thing. If you’re going to date and be sexually active, you need birth control. If you get pregnant on meds, the kid could come out all kinds of messed up. I have an IUD, and it works great for me. The first couple months were rough because of mood swings, but it seems to have all gone back to normal. You just insert it and forget about it for the next 3-10 years. I’m not sure what kinds are available in England, but here we have two types. One contains hormones and lasts 3-5 years. One contains copper and lasts ten years. If you never want kids ever, maybe the ten year one is best for you. During the first 4-6 months, you would have increased bleeding, but after that it should go back to normal. With the hormonal one, your period would get lighter or maybe stop altogether.
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Yeah that’s what it seemed like to me but who wouldn’t wanna reproduce with you? You’re awesome. I mean I would if I had a 
. @anon80629714
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On a serious note I dont want children either… I might change my mind but it’s not reasonable for me in this mindset and also I’m afraid to. I’m already below poverty level with my fiance. And it’s already burdensome (well I think I am… He loves me for some reason) having to care for me and I only see chaos if I have children. He wants children so bad that he’s flushed my birth control so I started getting the shot. Wearing condoms was a joke. From poked holes and “I forgot” or “We ran out”… 
You kinda got to stand firm after dating bc years will pass and people do change.
And some men want children (by all means not all but they’re out there) to get you to stay with them. @anon80629714
I was always afraid to tell the women I didn’t want kids. I assumed men would understand. Women would attack me for being a weirdo.
I used to tell people who demanded to know why I didn’t have any babies that I loved kids too much to have them. I just wouldn’t do that to a child.
It’s the truth.
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