I’ve never wanted kids, but have had to end relationships because if it. I’ve experienced the pressure that women can put on men to have kids.
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In behalf of the women of the world… not all of us are the same.
I never demanded children from anyone. Had one boyfriend that I woulnd’t mind having kids with and he didn’t mind having kids with me, but he’s an alcoholic and drug addict now, couldn’t go back there.
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We didn’t plan on having a kid of our own but wanted to adopt. Then my wife got pregnant despite both of us being ‘sterile’. Whoops. We have greatly enjoyed raising our daughter and feel blessed she is in our lives. About the only thing my wife pressures me over is spending time with her relatives.
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I’m a male, and I never gave the issue much thought. Whenever we had a family get together, and my niece and nephews came over, I was thinking I gotta have kids. Sometimes I think nothing could be more fun than raising kids, but I never got around to it. Alcoholism and schizophrenia kind of put that off. Not having kids has saved me a lot of work and a lot of worry. If I had kids I would probably worry about them constantly.
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I wanted to raise a family, saw myself doing so in my 30’s when I was much younger and well sure the only times I really gave it much thought were when I was hopelessly attached at the hip to someone.
But no, these days, now that I’m there, I don’t see that happening.
Idk if i want kids. If it was the right woman yea sure but who knows if ill find that. I don’t want to be pressured into having a kid with a person i don’t truly love but having kids would be cool i guess. Idk im only 20 lol
Children come with worry. It’s inevitable.
Men want children as much as women. It is not a gender thing…more like a matter of maturity and being ready to raise a child.
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I was almost a father but she didn’t want the child. I would have really loved having kids I think. It’s too late for that now that I am 53. I am a good uncle.
Maybe if I hadn’t become ill in my early 20s I would have been healthy enough to procreate with someone I loved enough. 20 years later now that I have achieved some stability it is all a bit too late. I don’t want to be a dad to an 18 year old when I am 65.
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I want children when I’m ready and in a stable relationship. But I’d be fine without children too.
I believe it’s more an individual preference and not just based on a person’s gender.
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If I got busy and had a kid right away I would be a father to a ten year old when I was 67.
I don’t think I will ever have kids. I used to want them but as I grow older and see the kind of world they’d have to grow up in, I’m less inclined to make them go through a difficult existence, poverty etc.
Have no idea what kind of woman would want to have kids with me, I’m on benefits, am severely overweight, so right now I’m no good for relationships, and that’s where it’s supposed to start.
Back in 2007 I dated a 40-year old woman and she became pregnant, she said she would abort but one day she mysteriously cut all ties with me so I’m thinking who knows, maybe she kept the child and I might meet him/her one day. Kinda delusional thinking though.
Ronnie Wood just recently became a father. He is 68.
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Good for you. I am probably making excuses for myself. I’ve never really wanted children. Maybe too selfish or immature. It has never been in my projected future. I don’t know why.
From this female, was not sure I wanted children after getting even poorer. Did well in 20s on modest income working full-time, then had schizo symptoms start and went on LESS money from SSDI. Did not want to do that to my kid…Had to return to the parents to live and REALLY knew I did not want to raise a child in the misery I dealt with from these two miserable souls. Worked in emergency services charity for a while and had moms come in with naked babies as fall came on and thrift store charity would not help; saw people begging for diapers and charity was barely able to assist…Will be getting tubal ligation soon in early 40s.
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I will do everything(that’s reasonable) in my power to never have kids. Unfortunately vasectomies, like in most of the world, are not allowed here until you’re in mid 30s or already have 3 kids. Women definitely have the upper hand when it comes to contraception.
Way before I became to the philosophical conclusion that procreation is ethically wrong(at 18), far worse than murder and such, I already knew that I personally didn’t want kids. I also remember being vehemently opposed to my parents’ idea of having another child when I was 12, because I knew he/she would go trough the same ‘wonderful’ childhood I was going trough, and sure enough, I have a sibling with schizophrenia, no history of the illness in either side of my family.
I view people who procreate as incredibly ignorant and irresponsible, but not evil, just mainly selfish and stupid. I’m a victim of my parents. It makes me really angry thinking how all I have been trough could have been easily prevented, nobody would have had to be deprived horribly.
Nothing scares me more than getting somebody pregnant and her forcing me to raise a child or at least be responsible for the creation of one. I’d rather go blind, lose all limbs, etc. It boggles my mind how people do it voluntarily. Studies show that the more kids you have the lower your IQ is on average, really smart people just don’t choose to have kids. Luckily I also have no desire, from an emotional perspective, to have kids, never had as far as I can remember.
I’ve never heard a good argument why anybody should be allowed to procreate. We make huge safeguards in almost all aspects of life like travel, production, entertainment etc, but procreation gets a huge pass. If a person would want to get on a joyride that has the possibility experiencing psychosis, a mixed state, a cluster headache, having your head cut off and all the other horrors at the same rate that they occur in people’s everyday activities, we would prevent that person from getting on that ride, because obviously they’re retarded, stupid or just very reckless if they chose to get on it.
Just the responsibility alone would drive me nuts, seeing them drive for the first time, running down the stairs, etc. The people who have kids don’t take it seriously enough, because if they took it with enough seriousness, they wouldn’t have kids.
“You’ve poisoned all of your children,
to camouflage your scars.”
[B]Marilyn Manson[/B]
My husband was the one that convinced me to try to have a kid. He wanted kids way more than me.
I’m a man… I would LOVE to be a father someday.
My girlfriend… not so about it…
I’m also looking forward to the time when I can be an Uncle again… I have a few younger siblings…
More nieces and nephews should be on the way.
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