I don't want grief off people but I got caught shoplifting beer

I have a drinking problem

You’ll all probably not going to like me but I think I don’t like myself. I got caught shoplifting beer last Saturday in the corner shop as had no money for beer as social services took control off my money and I have been drinking alot. I’m not very good at shoplifting and got caught straight away and when the shopkeeper said about paying for the items in ‘’your’’ bag I got overwhelmed and just fastly ran out the shop with the beers. Now I think the police are going to arrest me which will be embarrassing. It’s all embarrassing really as the shop is on my street which I go past everyday, Thats why I walked the long way to the coffee shop with my community nurse yesterday as I’m embarrassed to walk past the shop.

I just sent a email to my community nurse admitting the shoplifting, was this the right thing to do? I’m super embassressed.

Nothing good comes from drinking. I hope you quit.

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Yes, I think it was. Hopefully they can help you sort it out.

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Mate, I’ve been there and I understand. I feel badly for you. I’m glad you told your community nurse - it was the right thing to do. Are you able to attend some AA meetings? They helped me sober up.

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Even before I just emailed my community nurse about the shoplifting he said he will take me to AA in the evening but as a friend. I really want to do it. I do!!!

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I’m sorry you are going through a rough time right now @bobbilly

You are better off abstaining from alcohol completely

Attending AA meetings is a good idea

You also did the right thing by telling your nurse about the shoplifting

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If the police dont nab you for it, you should go and offer to pay for the beers when able.

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I thought about doing that when I get my personal allowance from social services on Thursday. (this is the money I get allocated for food) But the shame is too much I think.

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I think its about managing your own money and addiction

Why can’t you request to manage your own purse strings?

And what would happen? Would you drink more?

I would consider it with the AA meetings

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I was being taken advantage off by people and I was giving them money for drugs. I seen a psychologist and she deemed I lacked capacity with finances and social services took me to court and they won, which means I now have not control over my finances. If I ask for money for beer it would be refused as it’s not essential. Where as before I was managing with buying beer everyday but now I’ve been cut off. So no money

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Can you request more allowance for food etc

They must know your situation with alcohol?

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Yeah they do but they are still quite restrictive with money. They think I should be able to manage on £140 a week. Its costs me £13 a day for a 10 pack of 440ml beer.

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I feel sad for you being in this situation
Maybe someone else can suggest anything?

I don’t look down on you. I’ve come close to doing some crazy things sober. Drink tea. Isn’t that what you Brits drink, tea? I’m having a cup of British blend right now, my favorite. A teaspoon of sugar and some milk, yum!

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I’m British and hate tea @Jinx lol. Coffee all the way !!!

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Thank you everybody for not being judgemental. I feel shame so it helps with the support people gave. I need to quit drinking.

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When I was a young man, I couldn’t afford to drink and eat. I got very thin before I stopped drinking.

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BTDT. During my drinking and drugging days me and a couple friends were broke so we made a “beer run”, in which you walk in a liquor store pick up a 12 pack of beer each and walk toward the counter but you don’t stop, you just walk out the door with the beer than run. I got away but my friend got caught. It’s a jailable offense but the cops just gave my friend a ticket. We only did it once and if you learned your lesson this was a one time thing for you and you’ll never shoplift again.

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It might help to go into AA and get a sponsor who can guide you through the tough spots, like dealing with cravings and whatnot. As long as you drink you’re going to get more of the same.

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Still going to like you. We all make mistakes and I think you made a good choice by telling your community nurse.

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