That’s the waiting list for a one bed room apartment. I’ve been looking at other places too.
They got rid of Lola and they want to get rid of jasper. I’m so numb I can’t even cry. My partner still has trooper and we still got Kaisei for now.
I want to go out Friday with my partner so we can discuss what to do.
Get your name in even if there is a year to wait. It might turn out to be less and no harm done anyway excepting a small deposit.
My case manager dropped by today and she took me to the HUD office I signed up. I’m just numb right now.
I loved that cat and I love my frog. They are also making me shovel 3 tons of sand out of their yard so they put up their pool this year. I didn’t even make a dent in it today
Oh sorry to hear that that is a bit of a wait. Is there no other way to get a place via disability
That is abuse. Ask your case manager about calling adult protective services.
They might be able to get you into an apartment faster if they decide it’s an emergency.
I really feel for you @cbbrown. Losing Lola and the possibility of losing Jasper must be heart wrenching for you - your in-laws are heartless and cruel. I hope they are helping you to move the sand and not expecting you to do it all on your own.
I found an apartment that accepts pets but before I got an answer via text message the in laws blocked my phone from making and receiving calls/texts.
@Sarah no they aren’t helping they expected it done in just 4 hours before dark. They said I had to prove myself
Why are your in laws doing that?
The sooner you are out of there the better, for both your mental and your physical health.
They want to punish me is all I can say.
@Sarah my partner says if they kick me out she is coming with. And then her parents will be really screwed they can’t afford Jack ■■■■ without us
Why do they want to punish you?
You seem so nice
I dont know how easy it is going to be to so this but you need to get a phone in your name billed to you.
Because I don’t keep the apartment cleaned to their standards. They expect perfection.
@anon12381882 I have a smart link government phone but it’s disconnected
Sorry to hear that. Sounds demanding. Hope they help too.
They dont understand what it’s like for someone with this illness on top of it they are abusive. Doesnt really surprise me that they expect you to do chores cause you dont work. Wouldn’t surprise me at all if that was hard for you. I certainly can lack motivation and have bad negatives as well to get things done
I’m personally so lazy with chores… I do wash up after myself thou and do vacuum clean like every fortnight the carpet rooms.
And my room is a tip again. I need to clean it 
I don’t mind the chores for the most part but they expect 100% I can barely give 75%.
@anon90843118 I just hate them. I told my partner that I ordered another safe link phone. She said they will just hide it. If they do it’s against the law withholding someone’s mail is a crime
This is a really mind-boggling situation @cbbrown. Is there a way you could buy the phone at a store instead of ordering it through the mail?
What they are doing to you is probably illegal like other people have mentioned. Just be careful and keep taking action to get out of there.
Your partner allows your abuse to go on and on.
And if it’s even possible, the abuse is getting worse.
If I were you I would even move out of there into some temporary living situation for a few months, even if it’s expensive. I would even shell out (like some friends of mine did long ago) $30 bucks a day for a hotel or motel room for three months until I find a place to live. It’s a little drastic but it might be better for you than staying where you’re at.
I think that here in Northern California we have more mental health resources than many other places. I have lived in mental health housing where they serve people in “transition”. Mentally ill people who are leaving a bad situation and need a temporary place to stay while they look for permanent housing. Your caseworker might know of something like that, somewhere.
But yes, I’m glad you finally are taking action and getting the ball rolling with looking for different housing. It would have been better if you did this a year ago but no use worrying about it now.
When I read that they want you to shovel three tons of sand it gave me a weird twinge in my mind and scared me a little about how cruel they are getting. I am studying slavery in my online class. There are some similarities between slavery around the world and your situation.