They said they never touched Lola and if I don’t find her they will stomp jasper to death
Take your frog and just leave. Even if you have to stay in a hotel for a couple of weeks.
Why doesn’t your partner stand up for you?
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Call the police. Report them for animal abuse.
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Have you looked for rooms for rent on Craigslist? That’s what we did when we moved here. There are usually a lot of options for people that need a roommate. You could even post that you’re looking for a roommate.
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Yeah a roommate might be a good idea to split costs.
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Doesn’t your wife have a phone? Why can’t she help you get an apartment? They wouldn’t disconnect her phone. Get the seller’s number off of your phone and have your partner let you use her phone to discuss the new apartment. Also stop doing chores until they turn your phone back on. Tell them that if they get rid of Jasper, you’ll stop giving them money and that you won’t do any chores ever again. Tell those cunts that if they want to dig out a spot for the pool then they can get a professional to do it. Either that or they can get an above ground pool. Tell them that you’re fu cking done with their bullsh it.
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I’m getting rid of jasper before they can hurt him. I don’t have any money. My partner gets paid Friday we agreed to save money out of it towards getting an apartment.
Her mom is trying to say I lost Lola and they didn’t take her. She was locked in her cage last I checked
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Do NOT get rid of your favorite pet because of your in laws. Whatever it takes. Bring him with you everywhere if you have to. You love Jasper and Jasper loves you. He is your pet, not anyone else’s.
Don’t you pay them from your disability check? Don’t give them anything. And use the washing machine and dryer while you’re at it. Tell them that if they want you to do chores around the house, they can pay you. If you’re going to be living with them for awhile, you need to set up some ground rules. Tell them that they will treat you like a family member or they can do the chores themselves with no help from you, and I mean absolutely NONE. No sweeping, mopping, dishwashing, shoveling, scrubbing, wiping, or any other “ings.”
edit: Hell, I’d be shocked if they even allowed you use the pool that you dug out. Ffs tell them to join a fu cking gym if they want to swim so bad. I’m assuming that they want this pool by July. How long do they think it’ll take you to dig a fu cking 8x8x8 foot hole in their backyard?
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It may come down to it that Jasper just needs a temporary home to keep him safe, if it keeps him out of harms way then that’s the best option, it’s probably not feasible to keep a pet with you at all times without fail. Hopefully it is just empty threats.
@cbbrown I’m glad you’re taking steps to get out of this toxic living environment. You and your partner deserve your own lives without being controlled. Thinking of you.
Do you have any other family or friends you can live with or who can give you a loan for an apt? You just need a studio to start
@cbbrown you could also setup a go fund me page and tell your story. People will give you the money you need for a sec deposit
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She would have to return him to the pet store. No one knows what a pacman frog is, let alone how to properly care for one. And that’s assuming she could find someone who was willing to take Jasper in for awhile. I know for a fact that I couldn’t take in a small animal like that. My cat would kill him. She could just get a small travelling tank and bring him with her when she goes out.
Hmm I didn’t think of it like that, just want what’s best for the froggy boi
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I don’t know how practical it is to live under threat of your pets being disappeared. You need to get out of there ASAP @cbbrown. The next one they threaten might be you. Go to a motel or anything
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I’m so sorry to hear that I’d be furious and heartbroken if I had pets that were taken away. I am glad you’re finally taking steps to get your own place I’ve been rooting for you to be away from those horrible in laws forever. I wish the best for you and hope you can keep your other pets and that you can get a place as soon as possible.
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I agree with this. Maybe find an animal shelter (kind of like a shelter for people but it lodges animals) or a wildlife rescue center to keep him for a few months until you find a place. Maybe even a small zoo like some parks have for children with just a few animals there. Or a relative or family member.
Maybe your case worker can help you to find a temporary place for Jasper. Maybe she’ll take him! As a last resort, maybe you can give Jasper away to a good home who will take care of him. At least it will save his life and maybe whoever would take him would let you visit him periodically. Maybe advertise on CraigsList that you’re trying to find a good home for a special frog. Craigslist has free ads or is very cheap to post on.
While I was growing up our local laundromat had a big bulletin board on the wall that let people post index cards if they wanted to sell something or they were looking to buy something specific like a ping-pong table for example or a barbell set or a dollhouse or whatever or something. Guys with small landscape businesses would post small ads about their business looking for customers or dogwalkers would post looking for clients. Libraries sometimes do this or churches or other certain businesses. You could always try posting an index card at your local laundromat that you are trying to give away a frog to a good home.
If you want my opinion, your in-laws are dangerous. I think with the heartlessness, cruelty and sadistic behavior that they exhibit constantly I really think that the next step is that that they are going to start physically abusing you. They have already started in an indirect way by working you as a slave. I don’t think it’s a big jump for them to start laying hands on you. This is just my opinion but it seems like a valid possibility. Hopefully they are too afraid of going to jail to ever touch you but I think that’s the only reason they haven’t attacked you or hurt you so far is because they are afraid of the law. But I’ve never been surer of anything in my life that if your in-laws could get away with hitting you that they would do it all the time.
But at least you are trying to help yourself now which you should have done a long time ago. Please watch yourself and be very careful around these guys. They are capable of doing very bad things. You are finally on the right track, don’t give up. To be honest, just because you move into a new situation doesn’t guarantee that you are suddenly going to be happy and carefree every day. Moving into a new place doesn’t mean your life will suddenly be perfect but any place will be better than where you’re at now. And again, honestly, there is a good chance that you actually could be happy and carefree in a new place. It’s very possible. Sometimes Life is what you make it. Once, you leave that place you are going to have more choices to make your life whatever you want it (within reason).
Anyways, you’re being smart by taking action; keep doing it. You’ve got some good momentum going by making phone calls and talking to your caseworker. Use that momentum to your advantage. This should have happened long ago but there’s no use dwelling on the past. Be careful and take care @cbbrown.
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I’m offering to rehome jasper on reptile classifieds. My partner suggested a small fee to make sure the person is committed. I’m also giving away his tongs and water conditioner
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Are you sure you want to do this? Why can’t you just keep your pet frog. I am sure he or she doesn’t take up too much space.
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She lives with them. They dont have to let her live there rent free. If she refused to do chores or pay them she may get kicked out before she has a place lined up.
The way you care and treat your reptile pets makes me start to be fond of them too. They get cuter by the day