I think people who have seen their parents life or marriage fall apart have a very skeptical view of marriage. Or people who have been in a bad relationship have a very cautious view… rightfully so.
My parents are still together, and still enjoy each other’s company, complement each others strengths and bolster each others weaknesses. But I know that my parents are not the norm. But I do have a hopeful view of marriage… not the norm either. Wether it happens or not? I can only wait and see.
When I was growing up, I was the only one on my swim team who’s parents weren’t divorcing or separating.
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My daughter keeps asking me if we (her parents) are going to divorce? That’s because she doesn’t have any friends whose parents are still married. Not one. It freaks her out.
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I’m thinking marriage dominating an individual’s behavior - not just about sex, but in all of their behaviors. Two strangers living together and all they can say is “That’s not the way Mother did it.”
That’s not at all reflective of our relationship. And we’ve never had a discussion like that in over 14 years of marriage. We certainly don’t feel like strangers, either. To me, my wife feels like the piece of me that was missing until I met her. She completes me.
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Marriage is a glue that helps hold society together and shows the love and commitment between two people.
Don’t like it or believe in it? Don’t do it.
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It’s a man-made construct. It’s okay to not believe in that 
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It’s actually a God made construct…where it became man made is when they started requiring all sort of legal things added to it, blood tests, licences, marriages to be performed by ‘qualified’ individuals… In the beginning someone just took a partner and the original Biblical guidelines were if a guy divorced his wife he was to give her a written certificate of divorcement…no courts, judges, 90 day waits to finalize and all that…
There have been studies done that people happily married live longer and enjoy better health… that a good loving relationship is healing and filled with positive energy…
If you aren’t getting that then you are not with the right person… But there is the right person…
I have relied on God to guide me to the right life partner… after my wife died she also helped assist find the right partner i am with now, so i had a lot of help… When i tried finding someone on my own and jumping into something it was awful and not meant to be, and God and my wifes spirit made it known and stopped the unhealthy relationships before they could go very far at all…
I’m a big supporter of marriage, I think it’s a wonderful institution. Being a child of divorce, I’ve learned to appreciate it. I haven’t gotten married myself, yet, probably because I hold the entire thing very sacred, and I’m not even religious. I won’t get hitched till I know it’s the right person and the right time.
@PinCushion In one philosophy course I took in college this one philosopher wrote about how people and society have their own sort of evolutionary gravity. The more advanced you are in relation to society, the more pressure society puts on you to act more “normal.” It is the same if you are more backwards than the society around you. The more backwards you are the more pressure society puts on you to become more enlightened.
Basically what this means is going against the norm is hard. However it is can also be very commendable. The best example I can come up with is John Brown, the abolitionist. Even though conventional society told him slavery was justified he took it upon himself to fight against it. The way he fought against it was wrong in my opinion. I am a firm believer in using reason and not violence.
If you make the personal choice you don’t want to get married, and that choice comes from your values you should be commended for that. I hope though that your choice stems from logic and belief and not bitterness. If that is the case, follow your own beliefs. If someone tells you it is wrong maybe tell them that it was God that gave you your intuition and you are merely following that.
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Almost the same for me. I’m the child of a single mother. When I was in elementary school and middle school, it wasn’t hard to notice that the happiest and most stable kids all came from homes with two parents. The ones who lived on welfare and food bank handouts invariably came from the single parent and broken homes. The kids who got into the most trouble (including me) usually came from the single parent and broken homes. The kids who were on the honour roll? Usually had both parents at home.
Marriage plays a very important role in society.
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