It surely did knock the wind out of my sails.
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donāt worry, weāre in the same boat.
ahoy matey!
Wanting to get married and failing, isnāt it better than getting married and failing?
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I wanted to get married in my early 20s. I never got married though. Getting married is one thing, getting married to the right person is anither thing.
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Getting married is no guarantee youāre going to being happy, for sure.
I married a Borderline Psychopath.
It ended in a very Dramatic Divorce.
Ten years of pure commotion and Chaos.
Glad that itās over!
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I feel for ya @Wave, I spent 25 years with an undxād man that swirled my world into the last 15 years of deepest misery.
Wouldnāt you think that would have sworn me off marriage?
Somehow I met the man that is the most compatable with my values and sense of humor, and well, gosh, this sure is fun this time.
Strange but true if you donāt give up on others.
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In my opinion you donāt need another person to complete you, being married isnāt the be all and end all! 
ļø Youāre perfect as you are, married or not married!
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No, marriage isnāt the making one from two, at least never in my book.
Itās about two individuals joining each other to complement each other.
I was an individual before my marriage, and Iām still an individual after Iām married, him too.
The secret to a successful marriage is all in how well you both can forgive.
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I was watching a youtuber the other day whoās getting married.
the dudeās getting married before me.
lol lol lol
Iām 58, and I never got married and had kids. I like kids, but not having them gives a person a lot more freedom. Having kids brings a lot of worries with it. If they had a car youād be worried about how they were driving. Youād have to worry about them taking drugs and alcohol. Youād have to worry about them performing dangerous stunts. They might not be grateful. Thereās lots of things that can go wrong with kids.
Iāve been married and divorced, but Iām not turned off on marriage. If I ever find the right woman, and it all just feels right, I would do it again. I had thoughts of marrying my ex-gf, we were together for two years, but that would have been a disaster.
I feel like wanting to get married is putting the cart before the horse. At least for me. First I would need to find someone I would want to marry, and could live with day to day. My mental illness makes cohabiting difficult. I have loved people very deeply though, especially my first love.
I thought I found someone I might want to marry, and Iām in a relationship with him now, but now he hates me and wants me to die. It would be a pretty bad idea to marry him.
I was I in a marriage with a man I loved very much but he was controlling and emotionally abusive. It lasted 12 years. Sometimes marriage isnāt the fairy tale.
As far as now, I am on SSDI, live with my 76 year old father and I am highly delusional. I āliveā in a fake world where I am being controlled and monitored. That would be very, very difficult for any man to deal with. Factor that in with the fact that I am attracted to someone about once every year or two and my having a very low sex drive and well, lol, it likely aināt gonna happen! and I donāt kid myself about that.
Nothing wrong with being single! Nothin at all. It just wasnāt in the cards for you and thatās OK. marriage isnāt the be all end all.