I am so jealous

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of my wife. She gets so much done so quickly. She’s one of those people that cant sit still or not be doing something productive. Whereas I am the opposite, I am lacking energy and motivation and have to talk myself into doing things or take small breaks in between each small thing that I accomplish. I am striving to be like her but dont think I will ever get there. If you know a better way please let me know. Otherwise I am just ranting

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You both have ways of getting things done.

There’s a phrase called “puttering around” which means doing small tasks with breaks in between.

Nothing wrong with that.

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Thanks @everhopeful , thats one way to look at it. I just feel so lazy because she gets so much more done so easily.

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My brother and his wife are like your wife, they’re very highly functioning, even by normie standards.

I don’t know how they do it.

But I just remind myself that I can’t do stuff like that anymore, I’ve accepted my limitations.

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I do the exact same thing. It think you’re method is fine so long as you get things done.

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Thanks @LilyoftheValley , I just dont get as much accomplished as I’d like and certainly nowhere near as much as she does. I have to stop looking at it as a competition I guess.

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Yeah. Try to bring things you can do to the table. For instance make meals sometimes, even if they’re simple, and other household tasks. Be a good listener and show lots of love, respect, and support.

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My brother is the same way, he accomplishes hundreds of things in a day and annoys me even more by bragging about it all the time.

I lack the drive and motivation unless I’m feeling hypomanic and that’s rare on my meds.

Don’t feel bad about it @Sherlock

Getting things done one step at a time is just fine.

I try to manage tasks this way also

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It takes time to get there, that’s for sure. I’ve been using this app for the past half year:

I have found it helpful.

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Thanks @Wave
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The important thing is not to compare yourself to others. Then you will not always go at someone else’s speed but your own. My mom is high energy and I used to wonder why I couldn’t be like her. But I realized overtime that I’m not her. I am who I am and I can be at my own highest potential not someone else’s.

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You are right, many thanks my Borg Queen :grinning:

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my wife does more than me too…and it makes me feel bad that she does more…I get that…my wife though is a normal…I take that into consideration.

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Exactly, it makes me feel bad in the same way.
Good thing we have understanding wives.

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I rather think about stuff than getting stuff done. I noticed a lot of time that i can’t see the practical work need doing. For example gardening, i think the garden is ok, but the gardener sees all the needed work and dives into it, working all day in the garden, getting the small jobs done. I am not lazy, i am just not interested or can’t see the jobs need doing.

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My husband gets more done than I do, but I still do plenty. I try not to compare myself to him because I would feel bad. He’s happy with what I get done. I’m sure you do plenty.

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Thanks guys @anon53623539 @HollyHobbie

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