for the longest time I didn’t date anyone. then my best friend moved in. one night we told each other, “i love you” and that’s the start of our relationship
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True that…
And you’d be surprised how many there are out there.
“I kind of like the thought that you could lose your ■■■■ at any time…” is what one said to me.
If they have insight into mental illness at all… they know the strength it takes to live with it. It can be an advantage at times.
Good luck GTX…
I still have yet to really seal the deal with a chick for a long term type thing since getting sick. I do know one girl who’s reallllllly pretty much my type in all ways… but every other week she just quits talking to me for a while…
She’s very busy… too damn busy… I do know when we are talking I’m a total distraction from her focus on school.
I’m trying to hold out and see how long it takes her to reach out to me, but every few hours the mind starts stirring over things I could say.
She keeps herself a mystery at every step of the way. Her and I most certainly have matching ideas about what is going on here. She’s defiantly independent and I’m still that emotionally beat up desperate romantic. What a match. So it goes.
We get along quite splendidly when she’s around. She becomes forward and very supportive, helps me in a lot of ways. Then whoosh… she disappears. Back to her city and I’m left fending of heartaches that she doesn’t seem to bare.
What I’m saying is… Romantic/friendly relationships or what ever. They can be a mess mate.
It’s gonna work out though @Gtx1990… you’ll meet someone.
Keep your guard up though. Women are insane (no offense girls).
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Thanks for the reply,the girl I like once told me I need to learn to take care of myself,I am going to learn that and then see if I can be together with her
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That is also an important lesson… Carrying around a dependent is a stressful ordeal.
That’s why the careless get it so easy, but their ■■■■ aint genuine… granted that is over generalizing.
Young women want to explore… Especially in this day of individual empowerment.
Eventually they all level out and want stability. To be a romantic in your 20s is a tough game.
Oh and I should mention. Some girls love to nurture things.
Keep your eye on the future and fight to become who you want to be inside. Women will come to you.
At least you’ve got a girl to communicate with a bit. That’s a start.
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time will come gtx… don’t worry…
Angry and sad young men are, I suspect, not the first choice of most women. But I’m sure that as you move out, such a whole new and exciting world of possibilities will open up to you, that you might quickly forget about being angry and sad a bit, and things will come your way. As some have said already, there is some sort of paradox involved here. Want it too much, and it will get in the way. Some loosening up on the issue may work. It is a bit like that saying about holding sand in your hand: if you hold on to it too firmly, it will escape through your fingers, if you hold it steadily in the palm of your open hand, you will keep it.
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dude you have some excellent metaphors in there…
You’re right though… Girl’s have to let alone to make the decisions on their time. Respected throughout the whole process… and then somehow the man is supposed to detect that that has happened and make a move. These days physical activities don’t even come into play regarding the establishment of a relationship… well I mean they can… There really aren’t any rules.
If you want a good trustworthy girl… You will have to do a crap load of waiting and following her expectations of progression.
There are desperate romantic females out there too…
Stage 5 clingers that they may be.
Man I’m a stage five clinger right now… I can’t get this ■■■■ right it feels. But I’ve been talking to the girl for months. Maybe it’s vengeance as I typically don’t sell my soul to women who do drugs and have slept with my friends in the past…
It’s like.,. me making exceptions is either a sign of me falling stupid in my isolation… or it’s a sign of something genuine enough (at least on my end)… that I haven’t known in a long time.
I’m scheduled to go spend time with her in a couple months…but who knows what will happen between now and then.
I’m really trying to kill my desperate side… but god damn after a month here I don’t know if I can… only thing that could save me from this is finding another girl to talk with… but that just sets up this staggered ■■■■■■■■ back and forth nonsense… which oddly this girl might be cool with… or might not… ■■■■ if I know…
We spent to much time speaking philosophically to really get to know each other…
She goes from asking me what my favorite music is… (finally a personal question) out of the blue… and then whoosh silence.
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i try to take the approach of
being happy with a little or a lot
happy when they are there and content when there not
and to put my self first
im a pretty independant person by nature though. my gf wants me to depend on her but i have too much pride for that lol
i also dont believe in the old school romance “i cant live without you” type of stuff. Yes you can live without them. but enjoy the times when your together.
its a safer approach for a mentally fragile mind i think.
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Yeah but you get hit with what I’m going through and you begin to wonder what my natural disposition to it is…
I can keep it casual… but really deep down I’m a devout and obsessive caretaker… or at least it’s what I’m finding.
You are absolutely right though…
But a small about of codependence can be the grounds for trust.
Ultimately though… relationships… or the relationship I’m looking for would be a codevelopmental sort of things… compensating for each other’s weakness… helping each other grow intellectually…
This girl seems to get that kind of idea. but she just seems fleeting at the same time… Then reveals great depth in what she is actually experiencing.
She doesn’t like to live by a plan… she seems to like the dynamics of freedom…
I don’t even know what’s up or down with this one… I’m mesmerized… She is slowly letting me in.
We even discussed the patience that this is going to take… something she took to with ease.
Still I wake up and she’s the first thing that crosses my mind. Even when I don’t want it to be at this point.
Having thoughts of her has softened the nature of my experience with this illness, but now they’re almost something to endure themself…
to proud to be dependent eh?.. hmmm
That’d probably apply to her more than it would me. Though she encourages me to just be myself… She’s paid for pretty much everything… almost insistently.
I don’t get it at all hah ha … ah I jsut hate how I can’t see it all at once and my memories change as my perspective slants based on my own insecurity in not understanding what is going on here.
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I think finding girlfriend very easy.you just have to look right place.if ı were instead of you i was looking sz girl that has same problem with you.
I’m sure you’ll find someone…
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I am sad and angry because of sexual frustration
Enjoy being free as a single person while you can. When you fall in love with someone for real, your whole life is going to change where you can’t do anything without having to think of someone else first.
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Thanks,I have been single for my whole life,but I agree,I should enjoy my life as single and then await patiently for someone special
Pictures + moisturizer. There’s no reason to be angry.
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If I didn’t watch Ernest saves Christmas so much I might find time for a girl
Mine just left me…said her father forbid her from seeing me because I’m too old. I have my doubts.
Wasn’t going to work out anyway. She was just the only girl to express interest in a damn long time other than an old friend swimming drunk on her birthday. Before that, nothing, I mean I hear ya on the frustration thing. I walked away from my last girlfriend too many years ago. Kills me, I miss her like all hell and I had like no female companionship for four years after.
I had relationships man, from the time I now remember this senior and I went swimming down at the river when I was like…well…I think the cops took her away. But yeah man, I’ve had love and ended up miserable and frustrated. I wish sex meant nothing to me, I really do, just does.
Here have a song:
Take it from someone who prob has GF’s he barely or doesn’t even remember. Gave my heart and soul to two. That sh*t got tore the f out and I’m damn lucky if I get a freaking kiss nowadays.
“gf” maybe is the trigger of my schizophrenia. be careful what you wish for.
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