How should I work with having a relationship with a girl?
I have schizophrenia,the recent Chinese New Year had not went well,I am a little upset,the good news is that I had not dropped back very deep during the new year,and I feel I am climbing back to the before new year self and enjoy my daily routine and weekly Football.
I am different from most people of my age,many of my age around me are working hard to earn money,some are in a love relationship.I go to work daily,I am happy that I do that but I feel I do not have a purpose,haven’t found a real goal of why I work,I need to find my goal inside work and then I can be happier and more motivated
People of my age,25,are mostly in a stable relationship,some even get married already but I know I am different,different not in a bad way or good way.I really would like to make some changes with my life,communication and behavior in the hope that I can make some friends and maybe be in a relationship.I am trying to figure out
Perhaps you can look on the web for schizophrenia sites more localized to your region. See who’s on.
Dating someone else whose had psychotic symptoms eliminates the stigma. This disease does not discriminate. There are probably thousands of girls in your country with the disease. You just gotta make sure that they understand it’s an illness and they know how to live a normal life with it.
You seem very good at handling your disease. You seem a little socially troubled but there are a lot of people like that, the SZ might be the reason for it but at least that is something you can understand.
Maybe there are local support groups?
Wish the best for gtx it’s all about getting out there and meeting people. You never know when a girl is going to enter into your life.
It’s great when it happens but it also gets more complicated from there. Don’t take this time you have alone for granted. In my country the man has to pay for everything. He has to remember to do everything to take care of the woman. Sometimes there are exceptions but it is a solid trend of things.
You might want to be prepared for that. Sex and company isn’t always worth it.
You love football, and there are girls who love football too. You might be able to meet a girl in the football club your in and then you two would already have something in common.
Harden your heart, mate.
Our princesses are in another castle (for the most part - I finally settled down with a good one but I had to travel to the other side of the world to be with her).
I remember I was in the same lonely boat at your age but what I’ve learned is that most people in this existence have some form of mental ailment that prevents them from being able to manage a responsible relationship.
Our hearts and minds are filled with idealisms and hyperbole when younger but we need to quickly learn those were just demonstrations of what others would eventually like and not what is.
Once you understand everyone is less sophisticated than you expect them to be (as well as many of them damaged) you will find that you don’t take your isolation as personally.
Given your situation you would really need to find an adult women who has it together otherwise you’ll find yourself in a situation where you’re attempting to walk on glass around others ego and emotional issues while trying to suppress your own anxiety.
What about the girls that are already in your life? The girls at work, the cashier at the store, the saleslady in a store. Friends of your family. The girls in your neighborhood. If you come in contact with one that you think is cute then talk to her. Get to know her. You always want a girlfriend. I assume you are hoping to have sex. But maybe you should just try to have a women as a friend. A buddy. Companionship. Maybe something will develop further. Maybe not. But you could learn something from just having a women who’s strictly a friend. If none of that works than you could try to make something happen for yourself. Such as taking a class with girls in it that you can meet. Or going to clubs and meeting women. Or other places where women hang out. The problem with bars and clubs is there’s a lot of competition from other guys to get girls. So maybe that’s a bad idea. But classes, volunteer jobs, etc are good places to meet women. I’m sure if you try you can think of others.
I’ll tell my point of view Gtx, in my opinion, the only thing preventing us from having a girlfriend is shyness. If you overcome that shyness and decide to talk to girls randomly, just approach them and make small-talk, I’m ready to bet you will find someone in the long run.
I went to the mall a couple of days ago, and I spotted three girls who would have been good candidates. One I crossed her path when walking inside the mall, the second one was a black girl that used to be my friend’s girlfriend, he had brought her at my place one time. I saw her smoking outside but we didn’t acknowledge each other. The third and last girl was a cashier at Best Buy, I purchased a camera and she did smile. If I had overcome my shyness I would have tried to get her number. But like work, people’s various experiences and my own limitations prevent me from taking that step.
Stop trying to make it a science project for one. There is no great secret but I wont lie relationships are complicated. We can also make them even more complicated by trying to control or understand them. So it’s always best to just be yourself at all times.
As they say use the force. If you feel like talking to someone do talk to the person. Just don’t try to hard. Humour goes a long way in breaking the ice also. No means no always. But is a girls prerogative to change her mind. Mainly happens with trust though.
i use to hang out with a girl a lot that had depression. it was really easy to relax because of lack of stigma between us. she didnt care if i didnt want to talk some days . i still was not in a place to be in a relationship though so it did not progress further than a friends with benefits situation.
my heart tells me it could possibly have been a good relation. my mind tells me its nothing but drama. and my manhood tells me to go for it!!! LOL
