Why do i get these ideas, my co-worker tells me she is single today and i cant stop thinking about her now
Haha 15151515
Sheās most likely just making small talk
it was small talk like i said i was on my own and she said she was too and i was like āi thought you were marriedā sheās like no i am single and i live with my family she is really nice
Thatās cool. 1515
Yeah but iām getting these feelings again like i did with another staff member I kind of fell for the other staff member but another guy is with her now and she is pregnant now
it is really upsetting but i would have liked to have been that guy but bc i am apparently mentally deranged and under her care we couldnt do anything, idk if she would have but we are very fond of each other, its a bit awkward now
This new co-worker is nice too, i am getting feeling for her just bc she said she was single.
Is it feelings for her or feelings of wanting to not be single?
Surely itās best to keep things smooth and cordial. Especially given you both work in the same place?
Idk about outside the UK but here, people usually avoid dating people from the workplace
its different bc i am kind of under her care (kind of)
As in sheās a manager?
Iāve had situations like that. Iāve avoided it though, two managers at my last place asked if I was single and kept dropping hints. I did everything to act naive
she is my go to person at the clubhousse, if i need to talk she is there. she is new, i have had her for a few weeks
Youāve got to let her go. Sheās not hitting on you. And there canāt be romance between coworkers. Sometime people get fired for that.
I cant help having feelings though, they are strong, my ex really hammered my feelings i had to suppress them for a long time. its that animal instinct natural desires
Some woman tells you in an offhand comment that sheās single and now you have āanimal instinct natural desiresā.
You need to get it in control man.
She may not feel the same about you.
I guess youāll find out either way though. You donāt know her so be careful.
Itās good to take chances, but just be careful and donāt come on too strong. Just be friendly.
This sounds like she is a caretaker, not a coworker. If she is paid to care for the emotional needs of clubhouse members, she could be fired and blacklisted from ever working in the field again and possibly even arrested if people thought she was pursuing you romantically. It is a huge ethics violation for a human services worker to become romantically involved with a client. You definitely donāt want to act in any way that could give people that impression. You canāt help your feelings, but please remember she is doing her job. Her job is to care about you. Not to be romantically interested in you. The power imbalance if you dated a caregiver would be huge, anyways, and not in your favor. You donāt want a relationship where the other person has that much power over you.
If I misunderstood, and she is just another clubhouse member who also works there same as you, then disregard all that.
you aree right about that, it was the same with the other woman i thought it would be ok if i said i was taking advantage of her lol but i wouldnt but i wouldnāt let anyone take advantage of me anyway, it is my life and i do what i like, and anyway, maybe i want to be taken advantage of
I feel pretty bad about the whole situation bc it all ties in with my mental illness and reinforces the fact that i need help which i hate about myself, i wish i didnt need help or care i just want to be free and date whoever i like,
all the women think i am crazy and thats why they stay away from me anyway, it seems i am only allowed to date that of my own kind i.e. other women with mental illness, i feel like iād havee to go on the undateables to get notices, fkn illness makes me feel psychologically ugly too
Maybe change the way you view yourself and disease like mental illness types of disease or illness. It might help with self esteem which is what it seems you struggle with given what youāve written about not liking to be affected by sz.
Nobody likes it. But plenty donāt let it define or dictate everything about their identity.
So? What is so wrong with mentally ill women? This is an attitude I see a lot in mentally ill men and hardly ever in mentally ill women. I am dating an autistic with PTSD. And it works great for us. Disabled people can date other disabled people and be very happy.
Agreed
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nothing wrong with mentally ill women, i was with one for 15 yrs, I just dont want to be put in a box bc of my illness