When she moved here, I immediately messaged her on FB and we got together quickly after that.
I helped her out a lot. She used to be my childhood classmate.
So It has been 2 years, we are in the same city. I always call her, take her places, introduced to my friends… I even helped her once make a meal for her uncle.
Fast forward, she always says I will call you and does not. She says things which do not happen.
Last time I called her 2 months ago and left some funny messages on her what’s app and she has not responded. Since mid July.
On Sunday, she messaged me left me a voice mail, that she missed me, she is very sorry. ETC.
I still have not spoken to her and I don’t think I will. I am done I guess. I have no energy for meaningless relationships.
She makes me feel inferior with her ignorance and I do not need it. I don’t think I will ever reply or talk to her again.
sorry to hear selene…maymbe give it one more try? like see if she calls or call her one more time and see if she wants to hang (unless she takes more than a few days) then start ignoring her. I lost all my friends that I had (wasn’t that much) but I don’t care…i hope they are doing greater than me. Its just that I don’t feel comfortable talking to them now. I blame myself for not keeping in touch with them…
My junior year of college one of our really good friends seemed to drop off the face of the earth. She never wanted to hang out with us anymore, never talked to us, etc. Sometimes we’d see her off studying with friends in her major though. We felt she had ditched us for them and didn’t care about us anymore. We were all pretty fed up with it.
We ended up finding out the next year that she had been extremely struggling with anxiety and depression. She was also having huge issues with her roommate, another one of our good friends, and one of the reasons she never wanted to hang out with us was she was worried she would come too. She was someone who was scared to reach out for help and kept everything inside and isolated herself. However she had started therapy, changed, and decided to open up. She no longer roomed with our other friend. And soon we were seeing her all the time again and our friendship was back to normal!
What I’m saying is you never know what could be going on in someone’s life that could be taking up their time. Heck I’ve been isolating myself from my friends lately because I’m so overwhelmed with work and school while trying to fight a strong depressive episode. I still care about them, but I have to focus on me right now. Maybe your friend is the same.
I’d blow her off, and keep her as a friend though.
Don’t work on her time/ hang out with her when it feels right for you.
Like idk a friend is someone you share time and experience with/ love of
eachother/life/world. One sight.
She doesnt have any interest to contact or recontact you in months, standing you up a couple times etc/ doesn’t sound like a friend you know.
But idk couldn’t really say anyhow,
Best luck in your resolve
