It seems my best bud is no longer my friend

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I haven’t heard from him in over a month, despite having sent him a few texts during that time. The last time I actually saw him was when I went to his house to bury my cat, which was July 23.

His wife and I are fb friends, so when I went into the hospital, and after I got out, I messaged her to let them know where I was and what was going on. Still received no texts from him.

I’m not going to call him if he’s going to be a prick and not contact me.

I get that he’s busy with work, and that he’s exhausted when he gets home from working all day in a hot foundry, but it takes only a few seconds to type a text message.

Most of my other friends are people I only saw when I was at my bud’s house, mutual friends, so I won’t be hanging with them anymore.

This leaves me with two friends irl, both of whom live farther away, whom I’m not likely to hang out with. They’re both female; I love them both dearly, but sometimes a guy needs some bro time.

This is all just so disappointing to me. Sorry this got so long, needed to vent.

Summary: my best bud is ignoring my texts, and now I have no one to hang out with.

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Why won’t you hang out with the mutual friends anymore?

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Because we’re just not as good friends as my (former) best bud and I were. I’ve never hung out with them alone, only at my former bud’s house. I sometimes refer to them as “accessory friends,” since I’m pretty much just friends with them through him.

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Ah i understand. Hope this is a misunderstanding. I have several friends that have backed off this last year. I don’t get why people are like that. People are just weird.

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Yeah, it seems awfully shitty to me that after nine years of friendship he’s suddenly just blowing me off and cutting me out of his life.

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That is a bunch of crap
I’m sorry he’s doing that

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I honestly feel for ya.

It seemed like when I was in my 20’s, and in the service, having a car, working etc., it was so easy to find a friend to go do something.

Now I have a hard time even getting a text back from someone.

I guess what I’m trying to say is that I can relate.

Take care. :v:

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sorry your friend hasnt contacted you, why not text him or ask his gf what’s going on :confused: whatever happens though i am sure you can make new friends :hugs: you’ve got us here anyway :slight_smile:

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Because I’ve already texted him a few times since I last heard from him. The last text I sent was maybe two weeks ago, asking him if everything was okay, saying I hadn’t heard from him in a while.

I’m sure his wife told him I was in the hospital, then later that I had gotten out of the hospital. If there ever was a time for him to text me, that would have been it.

I’m not good at making friends irl, but I am grateful for my friends on this forum.

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i never use to be able to make friends but now its easier, i joined groups, did some college, volunteered, all of these things created opportunities to make friends, i thought it was impossible

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My girlfriend did the same thing to me. She would ignore my texts. It still makes me mad. We’re not talking to this day. It’s been years.

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