Do you think I should contact her?

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My friend who I contacted last about my grandmother’s funeral didn’t message back to answer my question.

Seems she ignored the message. Yet she responds… Likes on my instagram posts. I miss going out with this group of friends but I also worry of I message I’m gonna be ignored again.

Also she she used to tell me to take money off my mum when I couldn’t afford the trips away. And would get annoyed when I said no. She seems to think my mums rich but it’s not true. She’s paying two mortgages and it’s not easy to ask her…

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You’ve only mentioned negative things so I would say no, unless you have anything good to say about your friend?

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I said I miss going out with them. Maybe it’s because they were my only friends and it’s time to make new ones.

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What do you miss about her?

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Hmm… That’s a tough one. I guess the company to go places trips and eating out.

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If you’d said “I miss her smile, her sense of humour, and her kind spirit” then I might have nudged you to contact her, but it seems like you’re feeling lonely, and considering going back to someone who wasn’t very supportive or understanding :worried:

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It’s true I feel lonely and need new friends but no idea how or where to start. I just can’t seem to keep friends.

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It’s hard isn’t it? I’m in the same boat :sailboat:

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I suggest you compromise and plan to keep going out and and doing things with someone, just make an effort to find a new someone that doesn’t suck rotten eggs. Because it sounds like the current someone does.

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I even go out on my own to parks although I don’t feel comfortable going theatres yet but it’s just nice to not go on my own . Maybe I should join a meet ups group.

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Why the devil would you go to one in a pandemic?

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You could distance your heart from her and consider her an acquaintance for going places with. Lots of people have them.

If it’s too hard to hang out but distance yourself, then I’d just let the relationship go.

In regards to making new friends, have you tried meetup.com? Everyone on there is looking to make new friends.

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@anon25873142 when I was having trouble making new friends, someone recommended Bumble BFF for me. It’s an offshoot of the dating app that is only for finding platonic friends to connect with. I didn’t really try it, but it might be a good place to start looking for friends.

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My advice is to keep this friendship on low heat. Don’t let her borrow money from you, but if she can pay her way you might eat at a pizza buffet with her, or get a sundae at Braum’s, or watch a movie. But be careful with her. Don’t let her sink her hooks into you.

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I have a meetup account, i need to start using the account haven’t been to a single group outing since i got it in 2017.

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Yeah. It’s definitely worth a try!

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She contacted me today. But I think I will keep a distance and not expect much from this.

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I have the same problem you do @anon25873142 . I can’t make new friends for the life of me. I’ve only made 3 friends total since my junior year in high school and that was 43 years ago. Today, I only have one left.

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