Any ideas?..ha ha
I have anxiety around woman
And its hard to engage the conversation
Any ideas on engaging conversation?
Man, I really don’t have the money or even energy for that kind of thing, myself. Sorry!
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I met Mrs. Pixel online through an old dating site that no longer exists: Classifeds2000.
Before her I met a nice lady through volunteer work, except that she was very religious and I wasn’t.
Maybe look into dating sites and volunteering when you find free time?
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There are plenty of women to meet at College or University. Usually you are in the same class as them and can start off a topic about the course that both of you are taking.
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in dating sites they ussualy dont respond, and i dont know what to write them…
noooo voluntering i have full time job thats too much, i need alot to rest
Meetup groups? 1515151515
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i dont know they dont exist where i live 
Got it! What are your interests?
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Usually you want to find a girl who lives close to you and not 1000 or 2000 miles/km away.
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My interest is drawing, gaming
Just talk to strangers who seem nice and well off… go into conversations seeking nothing… just be happy if they respond… practice small talk… eventually pretty women will sneak up on you and you won’t even realize you’re in talkative mode and it’s just easy to think of ■■■■to say… the easiest way to keep that sense of self is just not need it to go anywhere BUT ENJOY THE MOMENT…
Always say nice to meet you or nice chatting with you…
■■■■like that… cordiality are almost well received if the timing is right…
Like if a girl notices you… if she looks your way again you can be like “wassup?” or “how’s it going”
Then they’ll probably give you an outer of a one liner that writes the potential conversation off but they’ll probably look happy someone threw them a line.
After a while of just being a good stranger or if a conversation picks up it’s usually appropriate to ask their name… you can expect to be lied to… hah at least sometimes.
Name to name is basically like permission to actually remember the ■■■■that was said… Like no I know her her name is sarah… factoid factoid factoid…
How you been Sarah?.. versus just how you been? You can expect to totally different responses.
Finding your own personality is tough in the face of social standards… but if you can go unfettered by social judgement and not come out without being too self-defensive or affected by trash talk then you’ll earn the respect of all the people who secretly feel out of place there… which is basically anyone who isn’t one of the ones who are talking constantly…
Talking to people who seem approachable and doing it regularly will make you more approachable…
There is also a good strategy behind focusing on being responsive… you can go a lot of places and be completely ignored… but if you’ve made good acquaintance type friends and you visit the place where you all gather… they’ll probably acknowledge you being around… whether they do acknowledge you or not is a test in itself… it’s alright to just sit back and watch how others treat you on their own… the people who like you will take to their own accord and start talking and things for you… and that’s cool when you can finally relax a little and know you won’t be ignored…
Also though… it ain’t bad to go somewhere and just people watch a bit… sit and just try to smile… it’s eassier if oyu are feeling good. get a beer or tea and just take in the weather and watch the side walk or road or alleyway…
All kinds of people out there… If you aren’t judgmental people are going to love talking to you… so work on that… don’t criticize folk… try to show respect for people to do what they want with themselves and accept the diversity of human naute.
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Tinder, maybe? I used it when I was in a manic state which I now probably regret. It didn’t work for me, but has worked for people I know.
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