How much value do you place on your looks?

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for what its worth, im a boy, not a man, and while through your lens i may look okay or whatever, im not conventionally good looking. short, chubby, squinty eyes, big nose, no cheekbones. i could go on picking myself apart for hours, yes i look okay at certain angles and in certain lighting, but when you really get a good look at me, im not a good looking little guy at all. i have some very ugly features imo

then again every different person finds something different beautiful. so it all depends on which lens you’re looking at it through.

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I don’t relate to what i see in pics.

Have no idea who that is

i feel good and feel like i still look good but then there are pictures showing my age and weight

i have lost 10kg since Christmas

i want to lose about another 20kg

i am as obsessed about my looks as ever but i don’t value them as highly perhaps i’m less intense.

i think i have been deluded that i could carry the weight - but been walking around thick set for ages.

(when i walk) lumping my body around it feels like at the moment.

spent much of 2 ys obese lately

still pay a lot for clothes and have been more thorough with my natural look than i thought i ever would

i heat dry my hair and put on make up almost every morning and go to the health club 2 x a week.

god i could go on and on

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I’m very beautiful. I’ve been told that my whole life. I’m also not blind, and in no way have self esteem issues.

Being extremely good looking does suck a lot of the time though. People stare at me wherever I go, people have even taken pictures (At least the nice ones ask first)

Not to mention I have been harassed by so many gross slimy people. I do feel unsafe quite often, especially when people say ‘wow if I was your father I’d never let you leave the house’ or ‘aren’t you worried about getting raped?’

But looks is really the only thing going for me. Also, I’m not egotistical (might sound like it) and I see beauty in everyone. I’m not a bitch. Just think it’s weird that in our culture pretty girls have to act like they don’t know they’re pretty or else they’re an attention seeking whore.

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@valiumprincess You are very pretty. I think it’s okay that you know it. It doesn’t make you attention seeking; it just means you are being honest. False modesty sucks.

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@insidemind @Loke I don’t like skinny guys. I don’t want a guy who weighs less than me, even when I gain weight. That is a huge turn off. I also don’t like guys to be too muscled. I don’t want to feel the need to stay perfectly fit and toned, and I will have to if he is. I want someone I can be myself with, and I feel like I can’t do that with skinny or buff guys. I like my men to have some meat on their bones.

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@Happy_Heather. Love handles.

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I hate how I look, I look lovely when I am thin, but at this weight I look awful but I have lost 10lb in three weeks on a diet, I am determined to get it off. I always make sure I look presentable, my hair maybe a bit wild when I am unwell, I struggle to deal with it I may also end up wearing baggy clothes hiding myself when I am bad but I try not to.

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When I saw your picture, I thought the same thing! what a handsome guy!

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thank you for the compliment, but i have a suspicion youre just being nice…

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Your post brings up some interesting thoughts,

Not to pick on you at all,

But when I was 20, I was a full blown stunner.

Of course, I didn’t have your aesthetic,

But, I was much better looking than average, great body, queen of campus, and a massive deserved ego.

Have you seen recent pictures of me?

I’m prettyish, for my age.

The value I placed in my good looks has no place to go,

And now I’m overly insecure about every sign of aging or pound gained,

All because being beautiful was such a big part of my life.

Now I don’t know what to do.

I’m smart,

I have a degree,

I have a decent little career that’s blooming,

But its hard not to be obsessed with how you look after that being your life for so long.

Sorry to rant on you, just brought up some feelings…

:rofl:

Can anyone else relate or am I cray cray?

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Yeah, I was cute when I was about twenty… Now LOOK AT ME!!!1 j/k but I’m a bit sloppier now.

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I care about how I look a lot. When I look good, I feel 80% better. When I dress well, I feel more confident.

I like to be exceptionally healthy, I like to have clear skin and white teeth and nice hair.

I take good care of myself, My body is the only thing that belongs to me.

I was not this picky before, about minor details but some things bother me. I don’t like my toes a lot. I don’t like my jawline, it is not perfect. I could do a plastic surgery and fix it one day. But I am an average human being so I don’t think these details matter much. I don’t want to be perfect like a model with fake boobs, but I like to be naturally beautiful and very healthy.

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I used to feel very unsafe when I was thin. I was always getting creepy compliments. It’s the thing that makes me most nervous about losing weight. I’m scared to be pretty because it can be dangerous.

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actually, you’re very handsome… let’s not get into details :rofl:

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I’ve decided that it isn’t how you look, so much, as how you handle how you look. A person might be just plain ugly, but if he or she has a friendly, outgoing, and charming personality people will still be drawn to him or her. Conversely, someone might have drop dead good looks, and be so conceited, conniving, and entitled that everyone hates him or her.

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Looks fade as you age.
I was very good looking in my 20s and thirties, now I’m still good looking but in a middle age kind of way.

Personality and character is so much more important.

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On the other hand, when I joined OkCupid for 24 hours, and had my picture there, I got around 530 likes :wink:

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Yeah, it really can make you feel unsafe. I had a teacher once tell the class that I looked like the kind of girl who ended up dismembered in some basement. It was horrifying and I have never forgotten it.

I used to be followed out to my car after work by men, and one used to try to follow me home. It was a store policy that one of my coworkers would walk me out to my car when I left after dark. When on vacation once, my family stopped at a rest stop, and my mom and sister made everyone leave abruptly because a trucker started watching me and following me around the complex.

This kind of thing was just nightmarish and would kick my paranoia into overdrive.

I don’t post my picture here, or online anywhere. I never would. Too many people think that if they think you’re pretty, this somehow makes you their property.

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Yeah it’s really not that fun, not to mention I am 5’1 and 110ish lbs, people have even asked me if I’m scared that someone will grab me and throw me into a van. Like, no I wasn’t really scared of that until you told me about it. :unamused:

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Same. I’m 4’11" and before APs I was about 95 lbs. I was strong and feisty, but no amount of strength will help when you’re that small.

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