I had to wait in my plastic surgeon’s office for about an hour,
In a sea of “People” magazines with people coming and going,
It got me thinking about how much how I look matters to me.
What about you?
How much does your physical appearance effect how you feel?
What do you think about yourself?
I care very little how I look anymore. I’ve never been into makeup or doing my hair, but I’ve always been very body conscious because of the ED. But then I recovered from that and quickly gained a ton of weight on APs. So now I hate how I look. I’m embarrassed to be seen in public. But, at the same time, I don’t really care. I’m doing my best and if anyone cares what I look like they can ■■■■ off.
I don’t care about my looks much anymore. I guess I did when I was younger but caring too much about things like my weight led to unhealthy behavior and refusing meds when I got sick. Of course I had other reasons too.
When I finally found meds to counteract the worst of the side effects and even meds that I tolerated without any real side-effects, refusing meds became a non-issue.
I don’t think I really experienced true freedom until I just somehow accepted myself as having an illness and learned to love myself as I was.
Do I really need to answer this? lol
I care, but at the same time I don’t, I guess? I know it helps a lot, and I love fashionable things and want to look nice and cute, but at the same time, I can’t push myself to take showers often enough or brush my teeth or put on makeup or do anything with my hair beyond the minimum. And then there’s the weight gain from the eating.
So I’m trying to remind myself that all of that stuff is socially constructed so I don’t hate myself.
I used to care about my looks because that’s was pretty much all there was to me as far as hopes of dating went (I had jobs but they paid little to nothing). Now I’ve more or less given up on that idea and surrendered to the fact that it’s too difficult for me to stay mentally stable and have a good looking body at my age with the meds I take.
I worry a lot about my flaws, but apart from that I’m not that bothered by it anymore. It used to rule and factor into my every interaction though, and that was hell.
same here, I used to be pretty vane about my looks. losing my hair was a little traumatic, it really affected my confidence for a little bit. I’m no longer worried about my looks as much but I do like to have a fit body, it’s just part of being a bald dude if you want to look decent you have to keep yourself in decent shape.
I used to care a lot, perhaps too much. I had an eating disorder I was in denial about. I’ve gained weight since getting sick and starting meds and I don’t really care about my looks so much anymore, though I am working to lose weight.
After years of on and off obesity, I got that under control so my weight is acceptable. It’s my head that is hurtin’ and I don’t tend to give careful care to it - hair, teeth or makeup.
I don’t care so much about my looks.
It meant more to me when I was younger.
But I don’t like being overweight.
I don’t care much anymore. I like smelling good though. I used to before my illness care a lot. Never had a girlfriend. I think if I was in shape, didn’t smoke, and had money, I could get an attractive girlfriend. I’m told I have a nice face. I’m also 6’1".
I’m going to be changing a lot in the coming months. I’m more excited to see what I’m going to look like bald, then with short hair as it grows in. I look what I look like. A smidge worried about my boobs being different sizes but most likely nobody will notice other than me.
When I am feeling emotionally good, I think I look better than when I am down.
Sometimes I don’t like my weight but I’m learning to accept it. When I was a little girl some kids told me I was ugly and I believed that for 30 some years.
Some women like big guys
I worry a lot about my flaws, too. I try to do the best with what I have. I like to wear nice clothes and put on makeup. I didn’t always get dressed up. Not so long ago, I used to wear baggy clothes and no makeup, but I started to worry about looking nice for my husband, so I changed all of that. Now I feel better about myself.
I have an unhealthy relationship with my looks. It’s mostly my weight and how my face looks. I think it derives from my obsession that I want to appear as normal as everyone else, so the more I look like a decently attractive person the better I think it makes me feel. It’s why I made sure to lose like 50-60 lbs. i don’t hold this standard on anyone else, just myself. It’s logical to a point tho, we all should care about our appearance. But where do u draw that line, ya know?
theres more to a persons value than the way their flesh sits on their skeleton.
i never used to obsess over my looks before sz, now im much more concerned about that sort of thing
imo if there is nothing good looking about the inside then the outside is no good either.
I haven’t had a haircut or shaved in a month so not much i guess.
For what it’s worth, you’re an exceptionally handsome man.