How do I not care what others think about my looks some people are really good at that
I’m obese and really hairy for a female, I’ve plucked or shaved places that I should not have, (I’ve got PCOS) stuff like that there’s more but Idk if I feel comfortable to share it all.
Lots of women from various ethnicities and backgrounds grow extra hair including on the face. Lots of women are obese. Just remember you’re really not so different.
It’s hard to remember that when you want to be the pretty one. I used to be pretty.
My guess is you still are. If you’re uncomfortable with the hair, shave it. Then put on some makeup and do your hair so you feel pretty. I don’t mean that you need makeup but oftentimes putting on makeup can boost confidence. Doing your hair does the same thing. Give it a try!
Hey, don’t worry. I have to shave and pluck weird, masculine-pattern places, too. Everyone is different yet the same. Hardly anyone has “perfect” looks. Just gotta love what you’ve got! 
Easier said than done, cause I feel self conscious about my hairiness and acne all the time. But my husband finds me sexy, so I bet someone finds you sexy, too!
Just gotta love what I’ve got.
Yes easier said than done but hearing that from another person makes it easier somehow. Thanks
Thanks Pianogal. I’ll put more effort in 
I think a lot of insecurities kind of melt away as you get older.
When I was in my late teens and early twenties I was just riddled with self doubt and worried a lot about my looks.
It got better in my later twenties.
Now that I’m in my mid thirties I’ve kind of hit my stride.
I’m very secure about my personality and looks, its a good place to be.
I’ve noticed its the same for my peers.
How old are you, @anon90843118?
That could have something to do with it.
Also, make some changes if you don’t like the way you look, change your hair or try a new style.
I’ve found putting in some effort always makes me feel more attractive,
Even if I don’t actually look that different.
I’m 30.
It’s a big issue for me
I will be buying some new clothes soon to help but I will wait a bit first because I am gonna lose some weight so don’t want to be constantly buying new clothes as my waist n legs get smaller. Idk why I care so much I think it’s cos of the dramatic way I look different now to before psychosis. But yea it’s true some new clothes would help. And face moisturiser. Thanks goldenrex. I do make some effort but I guess more is required
i feel a lot that way. i’m in my early forties. I have pcos and i don’t have hair on my face but i have much thinner hair than i use to and i’ve gained weight. What i do is i use moisturizer, i put light make up on. I do my nails and i wear jewelry. it doesn’t fix the problem but it helps. i want to lose weight though.
My hair is thinner too. Luckily it used to be quite volomous but still. Good luck with the weight loss. I am losing weight too from today onwards, wishing you all the best with that. We can do it. Plenty of healthy foods and a bit of gentle excercise. Yea I could treat myself to some nice necklace that’s a gd idea
@anon90843118, I’m re your response to @GoldenRex, you don’t “require” the effort to look good. It’s just that putting forth effort like that can make you feel good.
Thanks yea its about how I feel. Since I already luv wat I got :), somehow
I always loose off weight after gaining it. But it helps to feel good about your personality or other aspects of your life that are going well. I don’t really like being pretty, except that guys look for it in a partner. If I never intend to get married, I wouldn’t care how I look. Maybe I’d dress flatteringly.
Oh, Friend, I know it’s hard! We can think about how we used to look and what we don’t like about ourselves now. It’s not motivating. You’re trying your best!! You’ve been through so much, and it’s taken a toll! Do what you can! But remember where your value lies. Looks are temporary, they change so much.
So, when you’re out in public, do you often notice other people’s flaws? When you do notice, do you care about them? Do you spend your days thinking about that old man with the bad toupee that you saw buying milk at the grocery store? Can you describe to me one single stranger you’ve seen in public in the past week?
I cant. What I can tell you is the last time someone was kind to me, how it felt, and how it amazes me, every time.
My therapist once told me people, for the most part, are shopping, and not paying attention to others. Focus on you. You’re probably the only one who is.
Yes, that’s my point. No one cares about your physical imperfections except for you… and maybe your young children, if you have them. 
For the hair what I would do is laser treatment. After about 6 treatments the hair stops growing in that area. Well worth the money.
I’m sorry that you’re feeling this way. I really understand. Now that I weigh more, I always feel like everybody is judging me. I’m very self-conscious. The one thing that has helped me a bit is what others here have said- dressing nice and putting on makeup makes me feel better. To be repetitious, it isn’t necessary to look good, but it can make you feel good. I know when I shower, put on a nice outfit (God bless Lane Bryant!), and throw on some makeup, I feel happy and confident.