Realistically it looks like i will not be having children both for reasons regarding money climate change and a lack of sexual drive. But im realyl struggling with a reason to continue as i feel like all the joy has been sucked from my life. I see girls my age talking about relationships and sex and feel left out. I also cannot orgasm very well.
Id like to be in a relationship but tbh i dont think anyone will want me being sexually useless be it man or womanm
I really want to do something meaningful with my life but i feel like schizophrenia has robbed me of that opportunity too. What do i do? I just want to have a perpose.
I was thinking of having a job that is fulfilling but dont know what.im not even sure ill be able to cope with that
I see people with babys and i get jealous because its likely something ill never have.
What’s your age (group), Flowerfairy?
If you’re in your 20s, don’t feel discouraged.
A lot can change, no, better said you can change a lot of things in 10 years or even 5.
For children, there’s always adoption.
For sexuality if you really want it (back), maybe your current meds are the culprit, and there are also aphrodisiacs. No matter your level of arousal, you can find a suitable partner.
Work on your social skills. Best return on investment.
I’m 54. Not having children was the absolute best decision I made bar none. I would have been a terrible father and children would in turn have made me miserable.
Maybe you’ve already got it good and don’t realise it.
Having children could make you start singing "you don’t know what you got till it’s gone "
Age is on your side.
Work on your social skills.
It’s what I failed to do after coming down with sz a decade ago and it gets harder after 40, people have expectations of you then, they expect you to be mature, wise blabla.
25? You can rule the world, just know what you want. Is all.
I might see if i can start painting reborn babys. As they are so realistic and look like real babys but you can put them away at the end of the day. Im just frightened as they are very expensive
I’m 65, and I never had children. Sometimes I think I could have raised superkids, but I also wonder if I would have been as good a father as I thought. If you’re 25 you still have time, but not an endless supply of it. If you want to have kids, you can. I just kind of wasted my time away. Now I do a little writing. I’m hoping I can get started on a creative project or two. Maybe, if you don’t get around to having children you can do something creative, like painting or writing, but if you want to have kids you probably are going to get moving, but you still have time.
Jealousy can become bad if it grows out of proportion. Some amount of jealousy is normal between people. It stems from ego. Certain philosophies try to obliterate the ego, but without it we die.
At 29 I got asked by a woman how many kids I wanted. Jokingly said 6, who would grow to become: a doctor, a lawyer, a govt clerk, an economist, an electrician and a cook. She smiled. Women usually call bullsh1t if you joke on important topics, yet she seemed genuinely, positively impressed by my so-called plan.
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