How do you make friends when you have none

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how do you make friends

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Things like using eye contact and using/remembering their name. Also, asking them questions and taking an interest in their lives plus when they ask you what have you been up to try not to reply with nothing i.e. say what you’ve been doing no matter how small or silly it may be like drawing or reading.

find common interests

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Some lessons I’ve learned:

  1. Eye contact is good if you’re chatting in person, also smiling appropriately (it’s warm and inviting to smile if you can).
  2. Some emojis help when chatting with people through text. Helps convey you’re a fun and friendly person!
  3. Show interest in what they’re up to. Ask about their day, how work was, what they watched on TV recently. Find common ground.
  4. Initiate conversations. This is personally hard for me, but sometimes people just won’t talk if you don’t talk first. With my friends and I, sometimes we send a funny meme to start the conversation.

Personally, when getting to know people, I often like to play a version of 20 Questions with them where we take turns asking each other questions and responding to them. The key is not to ask anything you wouldn’t also want to answer. It’s a quick way to find common ground. Stuff like “what’s your favorite band?” Basic get-to-know-you questions. But this is as a millennial.

To be honest, I completely learned how to make friends by watching other people do it and learning a little bit of marketing/sales techniques. Learning to sell myself was difficult. I also was a bit chameleonic and became like the people I was hanging out with. I picked up their behaviors which sort of helped me human a bit better, if you will.

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I dont know the answer. I am alone. Any friends. I am weird and nobody wants to be my friend

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day treatment, volunteering, clubhouses, forum.schizophrenia… :slight_smile:

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You go out and get involved in some activities. Unfortunately there is no other way to meet the real people.

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To me a real friend hears you at the deepest levels. to not know them this way is not a friend at all. So i speak raw with those i am close to.

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I will suggest what I suggested to the last person who had this problem. Go to a nami meeting and ask people if they would like to hang out sometime.

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I think if u really wanted friends it would come naturally. For me the question is more like “how would i want to have friends?”

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Most important taking an interest in people. Going to places where you will meet people with things in common like groups. I’m not an expert in making new friends though!

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I have no idea and I don’t worry about it.

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