There’s almost always at least one of several men at a job of mine who will keep trying to small talk, flirt, or ask personal questions etc and I get really annoyed inside even though I’m nice on the outside. I want this to stop. Leave me alone stop talking to me period. It’s not just them being a cordial coworker. I can tell most of them are trying to get laid.
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You can’t really, unfortunately. Unless they are harassing you. You’ll have to deal with your suspicions, and just brush off their advances.
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You could casually mention that you have a boyfriend that you can’t wait to see after work (whether it is true or not) and continue to act disinterested towards them. Maybe they will get the hint and realize you are unavailable to them.
Another possibility is that if you are a pretty young woman, sometimes men just innocently flirt anyway, probably they can’t help themselves, it might make them feel good to just be extra nice to the pretty girl vs Roz from Monsters Inc, if you know what I mean.
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Get a fake wedding ring!
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If someone asks a personal question and you don’t feel like answering I would say ‘that is private’.
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Thank you everyone.
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Be a b*tch.
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Don’t wear a fake ring or mention a boyfriend. That is not their business and if they had respect, they wouldn’t be acting this way in the first place. Be very direct. It’s uncomfortable but your best bet at having a decent work environment. You don’t have to be rude either. A simple, “No thank you” “I’m not discussing that” “You’re making me uncomfortable”. Put those on repeat and hold your ground.
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I second that 1515
I feel like there are two things about this. First thing is men are gonna be men…it’s totally natural for men to flirt with females they find attractive. Second thing is if you give them hints your not interested and they start to be creepy and overbearing that’s when they are out of line…at that point you need to be straight up with them.
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I don’t have any great advice except to second what @signless said. Just do your best. I have been there. Sometimes you encounter men that want to exert power even after you have made it clear you’re not interested. That can be very intimidating.
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