Some of my coworkers don’t like me and I don’t particularly care for them since they are always wanting to gossip about other people at work and I’ve over heard her saying rude stuff about me. Well I was having a bad morning and didn’t want to go to work cause I wasn’t in the mood to deal with her or any people (I work 4 out of 5 days with her) so I called in to say I wasn’t coming and she picked up the phone so I asked to speak to a manager cause I wasn’t comfortable telling her I wasn’t in the right mind state to work with people cause she’d go gossiping or want a better excuse. So she puts the phone down and I hear her telling the manager “I told her to just tell me but…” and she’s like laughing/mocking me that I would even say I didn’t want to tell her and I’d rather tell a manager. So when the manager gets on the phone I just straight up ask if she was talking crap about me? And he denied it and I said “this is exactly why I can’t come in because I can’t deal with people today” and I had already started crying at the point I heard her making fun of me. He told me he hopes I feel better and that was the end of the convo. But I’m so embarrassed by the whole thing I can’t even bring myself to go to work there anymore. I don’t know what to do. I called out today and tomorrow and my manager wants to know what’s going on. Should I quit? Or what? Tell her I don’t know if my personality matches what they are looking for? I feel like multiple people don’t like me there
They don’t have to like you. Do you enjoy your job and do they pay you well?
That’s what matters.
Try breaking your text into paragraphs. It’s easier to read.
I bet you lose your job already from what you said you said to your manager. You sound delusional to me…being paranoid about people talking bad about you at work…case book paranoia. @roxanna says the same thing over and over…I hope you didn’t lose your job but I think you would be better off checking into the hospital for observation…I hope you don’t want to hurt yourself.
I could hear her on the phone making fun of me for not wanting to tell her, but okay.
Thanks for the advice on breaking stuff up into paragraphs. Didn’t really think much about format? If that’s what you call it
you are imagining it…you are unstable dude…
The people there might truly be as bad as you describe, or much worse.
But, employers don’t seem to have much sympathy for people not coming to work because they don’t want to deal with people. In their minds, they have to put up with their underlings, equals, superiors, and sometimes unreasonable customers every workday.
If you aren’t happy at work, it is probably easier to find a job while you still have one. If you are in the US, this seems like a good time to look for another job, for a lot of people. Quitting before you find another job may make it much more difficult, though.
I’m sorry you’re having such a hard time at work. It’s hard to know when to leave a job. On one hand, you will havedifficult people at every job. On the other hand, it might be time to leave.
It is best to still go in and give it your best. Talk to the girl who bothers you and have an open conversation with her. If it doesn’t go well, ask to speak to her with a manager present.
Do your best to still be a good employee. Show up. Be on time. Work hard.
If you need to leave, follow the advice given above. Look for another job first. Fill out applications. Go for interviews. When you find a new job, then give your notice.
I work with about 15 other co-workers. Some days in my head I think they all have hatred towards me. Other times I feel like their pals. Hopefully, the insults and feeling anti-work is just temporary. Don’t overthink it. If you feel you’re being mistreated, slide in an insult of your own. It doesn’t have to be threatening, let them know you’re there and won’t be pushed around. Office politics is difficult enough, show them you have a backbone- they may just leave you alone. What do you have to lose?
Well, whatever you decide to do, do it fast. Like a manager told me long ago, everybody is replacable. So make your decision before they make it for you and fire you.
A manager will be understanding to a point but he has a bottom line and he needs a warm body there or it will make him look bad to his own boss. And they have deadlines and if someone is causing him heartaches by missing days, it is a good reason to fire you even if he likes you.
That said, some jobs have some kind of arbitrators to settle disputes between employees. Do you have a human resources department there? They may step in and help diffuse the whole situation.
Bullies at work are not uncommon, even at high levels. So there’s no shame in getting help with dealing with one.
I don’t know man. I had problems with people at work long before I ever came down with schiz. Coworkers were worse than kids at school.
This may not be delusional thinking.
It’s the way he describes his angst that someone would laugh at him and talk about him…I don’t believe that. just my opinion. don’t mean to offend @anon12381882
Seems similar to where I work too. Luckily a lot of people come and go and things have changed for the better but it’s still a problem.
What do you do? Would it be easy to get a similar job elsewhere?
Could be workplace bullying, man. You wouldn’t believe how unprofessional some workplaces are these days (like mine) with the attitudes the youngsters bring with them.
@I4CU: You truly don’t sound well. It may not be a delusion/hallucination, but I’m not sure you’re equipped to deal with work right now? Suggest writing out what you need to say to your manager in point form beforehand as I’m betting things will get emotional during the meeting. And have that meeting with your manager. If your past performance has been good they may be willing to help you. Never hurts to try.
Most of your post seems plausible to me; a little of it may be paranoia.
But what’s so delusional about thinking not everybody at work likes you? And I can believe some woman is giving you a hard time and that your personalities might be clashing. Hell, that happens at most jobs at some point. You may need some rest and time to solve this problem but a hospital stay seems pretty drastic to me. It’s unfortunate you cried in front of your manager, but your situation may still be fixable. Don’t give up!!! People become managers because they must have some kind of people skills. Employee disputes with each other happen at most jobs. So airing out your grievances to your manager may help. But talk to your boss and try to work your problems out. It would be a shame to just give up and not go back when a simple fifteen minute talk to your boss may clear up the situation with this woman. Good luck.
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