I think that you should give your husband extra kisses and extra love. This is hard for him. I know this because my parents do this about C. My Mom really loves me, but we just can’t say more than ten words to each other without getting into a fight. She jumps straight into super Mom mode when I get sicker (get a dip into depression or have sort of an episode).
But she and Dad hate C. They say that he is using me. He doesn’t have a job and doesn’t seem interested in getting one. He runs his own ebay story and was actually making a reasonable amount of money till the recession. I think that he supports himself more than I or my parents realize but his parents still pay most of his bills.
It really bothers me and makes me worry sometimes because I know that I am particularly vulnerable because I am ill. Whenever someone says I am doing something wrong or I thinks something that isn’t right- logically, morally, whatever. I think about it. I don’t just dismiss people as “haters” or say they know nothing about me. My parents don’t know much about me because every time I tell my Mom something I regret it later, somehow. I could tell her my favorite color and that would turn out to be a mistake. However, they are my parents so I worry sometimes. But when he drove up to my school (repeatedly) and slept in his car so that he could take me to my doctor the next day it dulls their point.
So just be sure to give him some extra loving. Having your parents talk crud about the love of your life isn’t fun.