I. So devastated… We haven’t had any issues in a long time and I am under contract on a house because he just moved to that city and we agreed to move me too, he even gave me $5k for the move, and tonight I find out he cheated on me. He’s not owning up to it and just acting like I’m being ridiculous for being upset about it…and is ignoring me.now… I dont know what I did to deserve this… I have been crying for hours.
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i know you dont like to discuss pa but how is it understood in pa to be cheating
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By breaking an agreed upon relationship rule
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ya i guess i think of it in a dumb way where no rule can be against pa or something.
things dont work like that there has to be mutual agreements in all relationships i guess
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Very sad this has happened to you.
Better to know now than after moving in together
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Your feelings matter. I hope you resolve whatever’s going on. Try to have a good week anyway, sometimes it can be the best revenge. Once again sorry to hear that.
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Some poly people have strict rules and standards, I don’t, my ONE rule that he broke was to simply update me on new partners. He knew this. He just hid this new relationship out of fear of me being jealous. Which is funny because I handle my jealousy very well and now I’m not only jealous im heart broken
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Makes sense. I guess it seems like an obvious mistake that you cant cheat in a pa relationship but obviously p can be a small agreed upon number, certain people, no randoms etc.
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I’m sorry @Moon
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Is this relationship worth saving ?
What do you both want going forward.
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I can’t believe he gave you $5000 .
That’s a lot of money and very generous.
He must really care about you and want to be with you to give you that much money.
I’ve never had a partner give me anywhere near that.
Not even a thousand.
Sorry to hear you feel hurt.
Hope you will feel better soon.
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