I'm annoyed - he should not have done this without my permission

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He’s added me as a beneficiary to his pension meaning if anything happens to him I get his pension I’m well annoyed. I can’t add him to mine cos Im waiting to marry him. I can but won’t and it just feels like I dont trust him as much.

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And this is a bad thing??

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Yeah what’s the problem @anon25873142?

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He has done something indicating he cares for you and you are upset?

Maybe he is the one who needs to reconsider things.

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I think your partner just loves you daisy

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Ok. I wish he discussed with me first. I haven’t done something like that because we aren’t married!!! Isn’t that supposed to happen between married couples.

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I’ve asked him to reconsider… What else can I do.

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Ok let me put it another way my mother asked me to ask him to take it off cos it will effect the help I get.

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Honestly, if my wife had acted toward me the way you act toward your boyfriend when we were dating we would not be married now. I would have moved on.

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Honestly not trying to step on your toes type thing but this is usually a good sign he loves and cares about you

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I’m very confused about this I think we all are

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Maybe that’s why he wont. I’m not saying I don’t have my faults …

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Ok. I’m not sure how I feel about it basically. The fact I haven’t added him as a beneficiary probably says a lot about how I feel. I want him to be on mine but I thought it was what married couples do.

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I was always taught not to take money from others and that’s what it kinda feels like.

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I would say go for it you both should be thankful that’s what I don’t get it would be like winning the lottery and being sad I don’t get it at all it makes zero sense

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Im having trouble expressing how I feel about it. I’m not even sure how I’m supposed to feel. My mother isn’t happy about it either.

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I understand a bit now but you are working at keeping him company loving him but this is the strangest post I’ve ever saw I really don’t know what to say

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Ok guys i don’t know what’s wrong with me … Sorry about the post.

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If it will affect your benefits he should take you off btw

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It’s ok I’ve been having off days for awhile I think I’m getting better my advice to you is try not to overthink and be thankful for what you have and what you get

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