So my ex called last night, cryin, sayin he screwd up… He cheated on me and than for the 2 weeks we’ve been apart he slept with someone also… What should i do? I told him id give him 3 months apart, we can date again before we live together and see if he actually cares for me… I love him but i hurt like no other… Is this the right thing to do? Need some sound, no bias, advice
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I always put cheating and abuse, be it physical or mental, as two no-go’s for me. If they cheat once, then they will probably cheat again. It sounds like he needs to focus on himself at the moment anyways, and I think that taking him back will set you up for more heartache in the future.
There are a lot of people who would disagree with me about not taking back a cheater, but trust is the most important attribute in any relationship, and I just wouldn’t be able to trust someone who has betrayed that trust in a way such as cheating.
In my case it has always been better to deal with the heartache once, and move on to someone who will respect me, than it is to keep reliving that heartbreak over and over again. Do you want to feel this way again in a year? A month?
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That is really good advice, I could not have put it in better words myself
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I wouldn’t take him back.
If he was sleeping with someone else during this time, you know they had a relationship while you two were together.
That relationship probably didn’t work out and now he wants you back.
He’ll do it again if he knows he can get you back.
This relationship has run it’s course,
I’d end it and keep it ended.
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I would never take back a cheater, personally. I wouldn’t be able to trust them not to do it again. He has already shown you who he is, and what he thinks of you.
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If someone has been seeing someone WHILST with me and done that behind my back, that is a major crack in the foundation of the relationship, a critical one, that can’t be repaired. That’s how I’d feel about it. Id not waste time on him if it was me. I’d be stressing the rest of the time if we got back together thinking oh gosh am I fulfilling his needs right. Its much worse for us considering stress triggers our mental health. Be careful 
it’s up to you though because I don’t know how you work, you’re not me
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I think it would be better for your mental health if you moved on and keep the relationship ended.
I know it’s easy for me to say, I’m not the one in love.
But I’ve been in a serious relationship before, so I feel like I can speak from experience.
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He doesn’t deserve you… stay away… he’ll just hurt you more.
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My wife cheated on me, it ended in divorce.
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I’ve never once stayed with a cheater. Period.
It’s unhealthy for everyone involved.
Open relationships are a different story though.
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To be fair, I was also the other guy at times.
But in my defense I never planned on being in a relationship with someone who would cheat on their husband or boyfriends with me. Just showed bad taste 
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This is what i sent him:
In 3 months ill have enough time for healin, and u get a new lease… We can see eachother and i can even stay there a couple nights but im not movin back with u till that period is over… Itll feel like a new try on our relationship, a start over where we both can respect and love eachother whole heartedly, where the past can be left in the past… But if u need someone and u go out and sleep with someone again than theres no point in even trying…
Sounds like you’re just going to take it.
Bad call.
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I would draw the line in the sand and cut all ties with him. Cheating even once is a deal breaker in my book. He’ll likely do it again. I don’t recommend putting up with it.
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This is basically giving him everything he wants without holding him accountable for the pain he caused.
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Like @Hemy said… Deal with the heartache only once.
Not over and over. Bye bye cheater.
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I never go back, he showed he had no respect for you and your feelings, I agree with the others, move on
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There’s a zillion guys out there who don’t cheat. Maybe pick one of them instead.
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I believe cheaters can change and mature. How old are you and him? I’ll be able to give you a better answer with that info.
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Yeah but it takes longer than 2 weeks.
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