Got some really bad news. Care to offer a kind word?

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So I’m not sure if I ever posted it here, but back in November we found out a cousin of mine had cancer. Stage 4 testicular germ cell cancer, the same kind Lance Armstrong had. He was sent to a different state to a hospital that specializes in his type of cancer. Last night we got a call that he was doing really bad. His heart rate had dropped into the mid 30’s and they were only able to get it back into the high 50’s.

A few minutes ago I received a call saying they are removing his breathing tube. There is no more they can do as the cancer is spreading too rapidly. It’s only a matter of time now before he passes. A few hours to maybe a few days is what the doctor said. Not ready to receive the phone call whenever he does pass. I’m not sure how I’m going to take that.

If you feel inclined to do so, maybe leave some kind words/a funny picture. It’d help me to feel better.

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I’m sorry @Dreamer))))

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Geez man I’m sorry :neutral_face:

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There aren’t words. I’m sorry you’re losing him. Could you guys maybe video chat so that you can see him before he passes?

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I’m so sorry. I lost my young niece to cancer two years ago. It was heart breaking. I understand what you are going through. The pain passes in time and it gets easier to breath. It just takes a while. Be kind to yourself. Gather together as a family and hold each other close during this time.

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Unfortunately he is not really conscious/self aware. His wife, parents and brother are there with him.

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I wish his family and you strength in this sad time.

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@Dreamer you probably have a million things going through your head. When one sees a decline in health, it’s tough. Try and think about times when you laughed or spent time together.

Just remember. … no matter where you go, there you are. Lol

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Sorry @Dreamer . The next few days will probably be rough. I hope you’ll be able to get through it ok.

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Thank you everyone for the kind words and pictures.

As an attempt at a joke, I am drowning my sorrows in pizza and breadsticks family brought home.

Hopefully things go as smoothly as possible. I’m dreading attending his services. I don’t do well at funerals.

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I’ll be praying for you and your family. I’ll pray for strength and comfort. I’m so sorry @Dreamer

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I didn’t got to my brother’s funeral…people should understand how badly grief affects us mentally ill…

I hope you are able to stay with family and help each other with the burden of this…

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The last funeral I attended was almost six years ago and it was my fathers. I went for different reasons, but it was still quite rough.

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I’m sorry @Dreamer. That’s very sad news.

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:heart: im so sorry, horrible disease, lost a friend this summer because of that.

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I am so sorry, @Dreamer. I lost my brother to cancer 8 years ago. It was hard.

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My thoughts are with you and your family, words can’t describe the pain of this knowledge and uncertainty. I’m sorry to hear your news.

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I’m sorry @Dreamer. It’s good you came here for support. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

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its hard, my friend died recently of cancer, funeral was last Tuesday, it is sad, she went peacefully and i am sure she was smiling, happy when she went,

i can only offer comfort and prayers for you at this time, i’m sorry he has been struck down, cancer is an evil disease and i hope they find a cure soon, its horrible.

i tell myself that she wouldnt want me to get unwell over this bc i know she wouldnt.

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